My husband is 85 and I am 76. If I think back to 2020 I can see very slow changes. He has never been diagnosed other than I think he has mild cognitive I have recently seen more changes. I find that I have to be two steps ahead all the time which is exhausting. We don’t have any family. The changes I see are probably minor like washing hands after using the bathroom, putting the garbage in the wrong bin etc. this may seem minor but mentioning washing his hands seems to end in an argument. A lot of the things he does I don’t even mention that way we can have a nice day. The toilet issue is a big concern to me. My girlfriend said when he says something just say okay it works most of the time. He doesn’t wear his hearing aids either. I feel I am agreeing so much with him to have a happy life that I am losing me along the way. I go for coffee with my girlfriends occasionally and the other day decided I needed a massage, that was bliss. My stomach is upset most of the time. How does one get a grip on this?
I called a non profit caregiver group and they sent me a package and said they will check in with me every 6 months. I think he is aware of his forgetfulness but we have never discussed it. Any input would be appreciated?
Thanks, Jean