Oh my goodness, Kathy. I’m so profoundly sorry for your loss and I’m struggling with what to say! What a devastating loss and I’m as dumbfounded as you are that your husband wasn’t given blood the same day his doctor found out his hemoglobin reading was down to 7. Anything below 8 is considered dangerously low and 7 and anything < 7 is critically low, which can lead to heart failure.

I want to thank you for sharing your husband’s story, Kathy. It’s a tragic loss for you, your family and friends. My heart goes out to you because it feels as though there is unfinished business. Sometimes it can be helpful to write what you’d want to say to your husband’s doctor, to get it out of your head. You can decide if you send the letter or not but moving those thoughts out onto paper instead of ruminating in your head will help relieve some of the underlying emotions that need to be released.

It may be too soon for you, but we do have a Loss & Grief support group in Connect with other members who have lost their loved ones. It can help to not feel so alone. https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/loss-grief/

Kathy, do you have family members nearby to whom you can turn to for support?