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Sexless Marriage (when one partner is ill)

Men's Health | Last Active: Dec 15 11:01am | Replies (196)
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@mikem8

So nice of you to judge me, you are lucky, you’re failed back and a woman past menopause is a perfect fit for a relationship to continue. My wife has been dying of cancer for 15 years. Her time is near. Our relationship has suffered from the ravages of chemotherapy, kidney failure, heart failure. All to stay alive. The sex was over a long time ago. I knew that women would judge me, but another man. Good luck l hope your back gets better.

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Colleen Young, Connect Director | @colleenyoung | May 30 3:59pm

@mikem8, I regret that you feel judged. I'm confident that the recent messages shared come from a place of kindness and caring, and not a place of judgement. We only have words on the screen to communicate our experiences, thoughts and support. Without the benefit of tone of voice or body language sometimes the messages may be interpreted incorrectly.

Everyone's situation is different. @heisenberg34 shared his situation, which is not yours. You and your wife's situation has been extremely challenged by illness, treatment, and staring the end-of-life in the eye. Mayo Clinic Connect is a place where you can talk openly about topics that are often taboo among our family and friends. I commend you for sharing how the ravages of cancer and the resulting sexless marriage have affected your health and wellbeing, especially your mental health, as you continue to love and care for your wife.

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