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Sexless Marriage (when one partner is ill)

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You can stay with your wife and CHOOSE to be content. Happiness is a fleeting thing, dependent upon our circumstances. Joy is an even-handed state of being that is not dependent upon your current state of being. The Apostle Paul said that he had learned to be content in whatever circumstances he found himself in (he was in a Roman prison at the time of his writing). Is it easy staying? No. Is it the right thing? Yes..

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gjohnny0 | @gjohnny0 | May 28 1:54pm

I think your advice is trite and ignores the issue. Of course the person is trying exactly what you are saying if they are still together, but in the course of 10, 20, 30 years, there are going to be lots of tests.
Maybe the spouse who is married to the ill person is more than willing to stay with the person they married but the ill person is overwhelmed with feelings of guilt that they are denying their spouse a chance to be fulfilled.
But guilt is too thin of a description of the emotions. I’m sure there is a range from deep feelings of worthlessness to anger at having to be in the situation at all. I mean “why me”.
I suggested a solution and everyone dismissed it as deviant behavior.

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