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Sexless Marriage (when one partner is ill)
Men's Health | Last Active: Dec 15 11:01am | Replies (196)Comment receiving replies
I fully understand this man’s feelings and frustration. I am in the same boat and have met my maximum frustration level at 5 years without intimacy due to my wife’s battle with bc that quickly sterilized her and I got to watch the numerous treatments destroy what was left of her sexuality that will never be fixed, recovered, ever. As a good man we are faced with a difficult situation and can either divorce and find someone new and destroy your family or stay and be miserable. I don’t know how to cheat nor do I want to but I also can’t stop remembering how good sex and lovemaking felt. It’s very painful every day we see people happy people and wonder what that must be like.
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You can stay with your wife and CHOOSE to be content. Happiness is a fleeting thing, dependent upon our circumstances. Joy is an even-handed state of being that is not dependent upon your current state of being. The Apostle Paul said that he had learned to be content in whatever circumstances he found himself in (he was in a Roman prison at the time of his writing). Is it easy staying? No. Is it the right thing? Yes..
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I just came across this and had to throw my two cents in. My wife is 70 and I am 76. We have been married for 33 years. We have had a very rewarding sex life for the most part. Not perfect, but satisfying. Since injuring my back a few years back, my libido has slowly diminshed to the point where hardly anything gets me aroused. My wife is okay with that. Our love is deeper than sex. Yes, it is an important aspect of a loving marriage, but, sometimes, it is necessary to look past that part of your marriage. Focus on other aspects of your life together.