@toomanyquestions - I had bilateral after dx for TNBC BRCA2+; dx only on left side but high rate of recurrence, so take them both. "I" decided to go flat then I informed my husband of my decision - never asked his opinion - my body; my decision. If our marriage depended on me having boobs - my marriage needed more work then I thought. I felt I didn't need boobs to feel like a woman - I don't. That doesn't mean that from time to time I miss the feeling of them; but I have prothesis and a pair of "knitted knockers" for shaping when I want it.

I was 68 at dx and had no desire for any more surgeries. There are a lot of things I want to do and spending time with more surgeries was NOT one of them. If I had been younger or if I had a high profile job where I was always being photographed - my decision might have been different. But if that was the case I would have been able to afford the extra help and cost that would have made the "downtime" less stressful or impactful on my life. I'm not so I didn't. I have not regretted my decision.

I'm a firm believer that it is my body and therefore my decision - whatever that decision maybe.