Hello @achatterjee
I can also relate to the journey you're on. It can be physically, emotionally, and mentally draining. My wife's cancer was in the form of a brain tumor 2013 f/w surgery, rehab, and radiation. The cancer came back in 2017 in the form of multiple myeloma. We were then off to City of Hope for chemo and stem cell. 2 months. And so far so good until she recently broke her right arm mainly due to her compromised bone density.

I also struggle with acute anxiety disorder flare ups. What was helpful for me and my daughter was family support groups the hospital provided. The empathy that we all shared became so important and therapeutic. They were helpful in getting me to a place of reasonable acceptance. I had several meltdowns when my wife was post op in the ICU from the tumor. There were some extreme interventions because she had unexpected hemorrhaging. I also worked in the same ICU. It was incredibly stressful. So strange being on the other side watching my coworkers care for her.

I do see a therapist once a month. For me it's very helpful to have someone I can be totally transparent with. I know what it feels like to fear losing your loved one. We almost lost my wife. Remember to take care of yourself. Yesterday my therapist reminded me that it's ok to cry and not compartmentalize which I tend to do.

Praying that your mum gets better very soon.
Ernie