I know there are lots of members and mentors who have knowledge and experience with this. I’m upset and need to vent. I don’t have breast cancer but both my daughters do.

Daughter #1 missed her mammogram at age 40 because of COVID (“shelter at home”). At age 41 she got her mammogram and immediately heard from her primary “I’m so sorry …..”. She had biopsies, scans and genetic testing. She was diagnosed with Stage 4 breast cancer and told there was no cure. The best to be hoped for was remission to stop the spread of cancer using chemo. She is currently 43 and into her 3rd year of chemo. She has an infusion every 3 weeks and it wipes her out with fatigue and nausea for that week. Then the next 2 weeks are “ok ish”. Then the whole thing repeats. There is no end in site. She has 3 kids ages 13, 10 and 8.

I just learned that daughter #2 also has breast cancer. She called to say “I have the boob cancer”. She is 40. Her mammogram, biopsies and scans revealed Triple negative, grade 3, stage 2 invasive carcinoma. She says that she is glad it was caught early. The plan is to begin chemo on 5/13 - 24 for 4 - 5 months, then a double mastectomy with reconstruction in the fall. She has two step daughters ages 19 & 17 and a daughter age 12.

Genetic studies for both daughters showed that there is NOTHING in the family tree (mine or my husband’s) that we know of. I’ve NEVER had anything like this myself. No idea where this has come from or why. I would take this from my girls if I could. Right now I’m a REALLY angry mama / grandma and I HATE cancer.