As someone who tries to see both sides and understands there is always gray area, or as my husband so graciously points out that I play Devil's advocate too much, I will say that building a relationship with your doctor is key however I do understand that when stressed or scared it's difficult to be in the best mindset and "work on the relationship".

Someone earlier in the thread referred to visiting doctors as being like a business transaction. I agree, doctors need us to earn their salary, and we need them for medical care. It is a partnership and while I do believe you catch more flies with honey, I also have been on the side where I was in distress from pain and not able to think clear and concise, especially with one of my doctors who had zero bedside manner, that I think between the two of us it just did not work as well as I would have hoped. So, my husband joined me at some appointments not only to witness how my doctor was very fickle, but also to be my second set of ears and memory to retain the course of action.

Being prepared with a list of questions, symptoms, current meds, and concerns is helpful - not only for the patient, but the doctor, and when necessary another person to interpret or advocate. Bringing pen and paper to an appointment to take notes and repeating back what you're hearing is helpful as well. Communication is key.

Also, I understand doctors have time limited appointments based on what the appointment is for and that other patients are waiting so it is best to be mindful, clear and concise to make the most of your appointment. I do expect to be focused on when I'm in that room and receive the best quality care for my time, but also recognize I'm not the only one to be seen that day and equally try to be mindful of other patients. Courtesy goes a long way between patient and doctors alike. It's a two-way street.

At the end of the day doctors are like shoes they don't all fit the same. It's up to the patient to find their best fit.