Self-hate is a struggle. I know, I dealt with it for many years, and it still has distant echoes in my self-talk.

There aren't any easy answers, but there are some interesting questions.

What would you change about yourself if you could? (Saying "everything" is a cop out. Be specific.)
When was the last time you did something nice for yourself? And the time before that?
Who is the person you most admire? Why?
Who is the person you most envy? Why?
Do you think anyone on earth would trade places with you? Why or why not?

There are a lot more questions, but I'm curious about your replies to these.
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