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Posted by pvctom2021 @pvctom2021, Mar 21 11:06am

Hello to all

I have to post this as a ‘just want to talk’ with the discussion group…I woke this morning with a serious case of anxiety and part of it probably reflects the event of yesterday…the title of this topic..
I was in Walmart yesterday in a self checkout line with a medium order..the first line of machinery was blocked off.. I noticed behind me a lady in her late 40’s mid fifties wanting to move by me to the other side of the checkout machines…they were being used but I mentioned that I could move my basket if she wanted to get by..she replied no, I will back up and start over again.. I didn’t think 🤔 much about it until I was finished scanning and the chip reader malfunctioned…Walmart was crowded and very noisy, therefore to get the young man’s attention to the problem, I was forced to yell over to him to get him to see that I was having trouble..he was a nice young guy…I would say Latin American who agreed with my comment that these machines ought to be taken out, they seem to be more problematic than time consuming…the point is, at some point behind me, the lady who wanted to get by, met my eye as the assistant and myself started to move to another machine, and glared at me, Iwas about to ask her something, I’m not sure what, when she uttered the statement’I can only be embarrassed for you’, I’ve never seen or heard such rudeness’…I was stunned, but I did say to her, ‘I don’t know what you’re talking about lady’…the rest went fast, the young man scanned the ticket info from the malfunctioned reader and I was off. I thanked him, and he was nice said ‘have a nice one’ and then she called him over and started apologizing to him for my behavior…my Irish went up on that and I yelled over to her,and said ‘lady, I don’t know what your problem is, but you should mind your own business’….that’s as mild as I could keep it….and I left…I’ve been shopping there for years, have had nothing but nice experiences from customers and employees who help me in many ways…but this is the world we live in today…this woman looked stressed to the …she had that deranged look in her eye…it really gave me the creeps…the tension and stress that people are going through these days can sometimes cross the food checkout lines….🙏pvctom

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Miriam, Volunteer Mentor | @mir123 | Apr 7 9:56am
In reply to @loribmt "My daughter lived in Japan for quite a while too, way before covid, and mask wearing..." + (show)
@loribmt

My daughter lived in Japan for quite a while too, way before covid, and mask wearing was just such a standard way of life. I was hoping we could all embrace that politeness and acceptance. I love what you said about being ‘no more comment-worthy than a hat’! What a lovely sentiment. But you know there’s always going to be someone commenting on your hat! LOL.

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That is so true--and I grew up with the NYC insult--"you call THAT a hat?" Ah well...

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Lori, Volunteer Mentor | @loribmt | Apr 7 10:11am
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@mir123

That is so true--and I grew up with the NYC insult--"you call THAT a hat?" Ah well...

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I still think we need a laugh emoji in the forum!! My hat’s off to you… 😅

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Miriam, Volunteer Mentor | @mir123 | Apr 7 3:42pm
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@loribmt

I still think we need a laugh emoji in the forum!! My hat’s off to you… 😅

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Well, I chuckled out loud--thank you!

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pvctom2021 | @pvctom2021 | Apr 10 9:05pm

Hello to all,

Anxiety 😥 awakened me this morning and I just couldn’t shake the feeling of ‘what am I going to do’ if I end up suddenly alone…my God, that’s just an awful feeling….my dear wife and I had quite a day all afternoon yesterday at Ft Belvoir Community Hospital and we go back for more visits in May and June..April 24 finds me at my orthopedic appointment, at least that is only right up the street…but I was able to verbally journal my morning anxiety and fix some coffee and move on with the day.. I am grateful for what I have and whenever I can go beyond the unwanted intrusive thoughts that I awake with,, and realize how lucky 🍀 I’ve been in this world we live in, the quicker my dread leaves me…I must find a way to combat this feeling in the morning and even sometimes later in the afternoon or evening….may all who come here have a wonderful evening and a great day, a peaceful day tomorrow 🙏pvctom

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verol65 | @verol65 | Apr 11 12:41pm
In reply to @pvctom2021 "Hello to all, Anxiety 😥 awakened me this morning and I just couldn’t shake the feeling..." + (show)
@pvctom2021

Hello to all,

Anxiety 😥 awakened me this morning and I just couldn’t shake the feeling of ‘what am I going to do’ if I end up suddenly alone…my God, that’s just an awful feeling….my dear wife and I had quite a day all afternoon yesterday at Ft Belvoir Community Hospital and we go back for more visits in May and June..April 24 finds me at my orthopedic appointment, at least that is only right up the street…but I was able to verbally journal my morning anxiety and fix some coffee and move on with the day.. I am grateful for what I have and whenever I can go beyond the unwanted intrusive thoughts that I awake with,, and realize how lucky 🍀 I’ve been in this world we live in, the quicker my dread leaves me…I must find a way to combat this feeling in the morning and even sometimes later in the afternoon or evening….may all who come here have a wonderful evening and a great day, a peaceful day tomorrow 🙏pvctom

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Last November, when I was all anxious and angry with my health issues, I started psychotherapy. In the first two sessions, the psychologist recommended writing all my emotions and intrusive thoughts in a diary; your verbally journaling is a good alternative. She also told me to think not just of the negative "why me" that was assailing me, but of the many positive "why me" in my life.

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brandysparks | @brandysparks | Apr 12 10:00am
In reply to @dj12 "Hi pvctom, Yes, the quake yesterday was scary. I was sleeping and when I heard it..." + (show)
@dj12

Hi pvctom,
Yes, the quake yesterday was scary. I was sleeping and when I heard it I thought it was thunder but it sounded different. And lasted longer. We don't have quakes very often in Pennsylvania. I remember the last one in 2011 when I was still working. We were in a meeting and we all looked at each other and stopped talking. It's a strange feeling when you have no control over something.
I used to worry about everything, in the whole world! Now I make a list of what I can and have to do. This helps me realize I have done things that I can control or help someone with.
I love animals and when I see a dead one on the side of the road it feels so terrible. It makes me feel so sad and I don't know what to do. So I started saying, "Bless your soul little animal." Then I have some peace, don't dwell on it and can move on, feeling a little bit better.
My point is that I try to do my best but it's hard to do if the weight of the whole world is on my shoulders.

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@dj12 - I soooooo can relate to what you wrote about being torn up inside when you see a dead animal on the side of the road. I even almost caused my own accident yesterday swerving to avoid a little gray squirrel who stopped in my lane instead of speedily crossing the road on a 55mph+, well-travelled road!

Animals are so helpless, and I feel for them more now than ever. Especially pets, and those that (God forbid!) are mistreated. Can't even write any more about that - too terribly upsetting. Just loving the pets I have (and they are rescues), and doing what little I can to support those organizations that protect them.

Hugs to everyone.

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brandysparks | @brandysparks | Apr 12 10:04am
In reply to @gingerw "@monica19815 Welcome to Mayo Clinic Connect! You've picked a great topic for your first post here..." + (show)
@gingerw

@monica19815 Welcome to Mayo Clinic Connect! You've picked a great topic for your first post here on this forum!

I am an active blood cancer patient, undergoing chemotherapy, and a dialysis patient. As you stated, I have been wearing a mask since before COVID, and consider my immune system to be severely compromised. I try to educate people when possible, about the why of wearing a mask. So many times they don't really hear the message, instead saying, "oh, I'm so sorry you have that". But at least I hopefully passed on the education, at some level.

Yesterday I was at a small meeting, in a small room. There were 7 of us. I was the only one masked, and everyone there knew my health situation. Imagine my frustration and sense of "really??? what were you thinking???" when I found out later that the one person who gave me a big long hug after the meeting, has been dealing with a two week case of the flu [who knows what it really might be!?]. If I had known that I certainly wouldn't have let her hug me!
Ginger

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@gingerw Absolutely, Ginger!

All I can write is "OMG!!!!!", and I'll just have to stop right there! 🤷‍♂️

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rashida | @rashida | Apr 12 12:53pm
In reply to @pvctom2021 "Hello to all, Anxiety 😥 awakened me this morning and I just couldn’t shake the feeling..." + (show)
@pvctom2021

Hello to all,

Anxiety 😥 awakened me this morning and I just couldn’t shake the feeling of ‘what am I going to do’ if I end up suddenly alone…my God, that’s just an awful feeling….my dear wife and I had quite a day all afternoon yesterday at Ft Belvoir Community Hospital and we go back for more visits in May and June..April 24 finds me at my orthopedic appointment, at least that is only right up the street…but I was able to verbally journal my morning anxiety and fix some coffee and move on with the day.. I am grateful for what I have and whenever I can go beyond the unwanted intrusive thoughts that I awake with,, and realize how lucky 🍀 I’ve been in this world we live in, the quicker my dread leaves me…I must find a way to combat this feeling in the morning and even sometimes later in the afternoon or evening….may all who come here have a wonderful evening and a great day, a peaceful day tomorrow 🙏pvctom

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@pvctom2021 as long as you are in touch with God through prayer - and on Mayo Clinic Connect - you are never alone!

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pvctom2021 | @pvctom2021 | Apr 12 12:59pm
In reply to @rashida "@pvctom2021 as long as you are in touch with God through prayer - and on Mayo..." + (show)
@rashida

@pvctom2021 as long as you are in touch with God through prayer - and on Mayo Clinic Connect - you are never alone!

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Thanks for your very kind reply… I do feel like I’ve received many comforting responses from Mayo Connect members…and I say short prayers to God…have a peaceful safe day and weekend….🙏pvctom

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