Hear you - I do not feel at all comfortable in having meals in public because when I am not able to swallow, I have to spit out - this I can do in the comfort of my home, but with friends and in public - it is not possible. I used to be on the 'social' side, but ever since the onset of my dysphagia - I am adapting myself and learning to be 'ok' on my own. More importantly is doing dysphagia exercises daily - hoping that it will slow down the late effects of radiation.
Take care !!