Hello, @boppi My name is Scott and I was my wife's caregiver during her 14+ year war with brain cancer.

I learned a ton of things as a caregiver -- one of which was as much as my wife and I might have wished it to be otherwise, we could never direct how people would react to her illness and serious mental deficiencies. Other than our two children, everyone in my family ghosted on us and everyone in her family did the same -- other than to frequently let me know what they thought I was doing wrong. We had a very close-knit group of friends of over 40 years, all of whom also ghosted on us. This certainly hurt but I also came to realize that I couldn't afford the emotional energy it took to figure out why this was true of so many people, try and change them, or wish it were different. I looked at it that this was their deficiency and was baggage they alone would have to carry in their lives.

Not much help, I know, but at least you aren't alone in this.

Strength, Courage, & Peace