I hadn't thought of the word resentful...but that seems to be the best descriptor. Im going to think about this tonight...try to understand a little more about where this is coming from. Its not hard to imagine resentment coming from the realization that the life we know (knew) and planned for is not going to happen...it will be something so much different and not nearly as much fun. I just lost a good friend with an awful ending...awful for him and even worse for his wife. I don't think I can be what she was for him...or can manage his "behaviors" as she did. It truly was awful. Resentment, fear...we have tough days ahead and the end solution is too sad to imagine. Please stay in touch. Yes, I know outbursts may be out of their control; it doesn't hurt any less.