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It may not really be denial. He may simply not remember he forgets. My husband did not realize he was having problems until our neurologist sent him to speech therapy and she put him through exercises he simply could not do. He then became willing to work at activities to help exercise his mind as much as possible to keep him with us as long as we can. He has now forgotten that he has dementia and I gently remind him occasionally when his antics go badly but it is a thin line to walk between helping and setting him up for depression. Besides the grief of his diagnosis, my hardest challenge has been maintaining patience of him, myself and our children who ignore him. God Bless you on this road!

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MCI is the only diagnose has gotten so far . Has anyone seen major personality changes with MCI?

So important to keep his mind active and to stay active socially
He is still able to do consulting work at a very high level for an international organization. I have so far kept his diagnosis “close to the vest” because I believe he might lose his job if it was know he has MCi
His neurologist says that he has a “large cognitive reserve “ and that enables him to do his work. At least for now.
I do not believe he could function well if I were to leave town for a few days. I did that two weeks ago and his adult son came to stay with him

My husband also had a speech therapist and that was great. She worked on Brain exercises and continued to assess. She is done now and we are going on vacation for a few weeks, but I may continue to pay out of pocket for the therapy.
Loved what you said at the end about patience. It is hard and the denial is an issue because in MCI it’s sometimes hard to think of the word dementia as they surprise with lucidity and logic.
As far as the children, ours are adult children and grandchildren and they all include him and actually ask me to stay quiet and let him talk even if I see he is off. Great reminder to let him work with his own words and not talk for him.
Thank you for writing.