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Does anyone feel old and useless with age?
Depression & Anxiety | Last Active: Mar 22 4:21pm | Replies (192)Comment receiving replies
I am in my lat 80's and now live alone for the very first time in my life. Lived with parents until my first marriage at 21, divorced 13 years later but had 2 young children with me. Re-married 2-1/2 years after divorce and recently my husband of 47 years passed away. Own my own home and so far can live independently with fairly good health and able to drive my car. My son and daughter live out of state; one about 75 minutes drive away; the other a good 10 hour+ car ride away. Wondering if I should sell the house and move into a senior housing apartment; but not really available in this small town. Maybe a condo?? Anyway, I feel fortunate at my age today; the tomorrows are what can keep me away at night. But still trying to take day at a time.
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I left my home due to an abusive mother. I was on my own for a year before I met my husband. We met in 1959 and married in 1962. As are you, I own our home, in fairly good health and am able to drive myself anywhere I need to go. Unlike you, my children are far away. Before you sell your home you should investigate the facilities that advertise. I did. I was disappointed in what I saw. Really small apartments. I would not be able to take anything of my own. I also questioned that they could really give you all the amenities they advertise. It is hard now to find workers and they are not paid well. So I made the decision to stay in my own home. If and when I get to a place where I need help, I will hire my own caregivers. Again, if you go with agencies you should know that they will charge you a high hourly rate, but pay their caregivers barely minimum wage. As you can see, I have given this a lot of thought and I hope you will also before make a move that you will regret.