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I have been estranged from my daughter for almost 20 years

Mental Health | Last Active: Feb 29 1:38pm | Replies (29)
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STRONGLY recommend two books, same author . . . Done With the Crying (1) and Beyond Done With The Crying (2) both written by Sheri McGregor M.A. First book published in 2016, second in 2021. She is a social worker and parent of a child with whom she is estranged. I ordered them from Amazon, paperback editions, and they were not expensive. In addition to giving you a lot of information, there are also activities you can do that will help you better "see" what family patterns were and are for her generation, your generation, her dad's etc.

Also, lots of supportive discussion of next steps, what ifs and ...

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kartwk | @kartwk | Feb 26 3:35pm

WOW! I guess I never realized others were dealing with this problem. I thought it was just me.
Thank you for the information. I just ordered it.

I read the reviews and want to post part of one that I can so relate to because the time I talked to my daughter she brought up this matter of unconditional love, that no matter what she did as a mother, if I was normal, I would have unconditional love for her.

"“mothers should love unconditionally”, I would suggest that all of these mothers continue to love their children unconditionally, but this doesn’t mean they should tolerate unconditional abuse by their adult children. In most cases, the adult children were disrespectful, even cruel, leading to discard. It is a mother’s nature to react to the cruelty, it is a mother’s nature to tolerate way too much from her adult children, I would suggest that mothers are martyring themselves way too much. "

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