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I have been estranged from my daughter for almost 20 years
Mental Health | Last Active: Feb 29 1:38pm | Replies (29)Comment receiving replies
You have no control over your daughter only yourself Try to forgive and let go So that it doesn't continue to eat at you Just tell her you'll always love her and move on without hurt and anger ruining the time you have left. It is right to set limits for yourself - but if you want to send her stuff, if thats better for you just go ahead and do it . Don't try to malign her father because it will only hurt her and deepen your own regrets You sound as if Alanon would help you separate yourself from the grief and heartbreak So many of us suffer from torn relationships I believe focusing on the things you are grateful for and reaching out to help others gives peace and healing
If you believe in God, ask for help and to learn forgiveness.
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Re sending her stuff. Do you know that I have hauled it through 2 moves to different states. The boxes are currently up in the garage attic.
I don't know why I kept it, perhaps hope just like I saved my wedding veil and the handmade (and hand quilted) baby quilt her Great Grandmother made for her. I am thinking abut getting rid of all but my Grandmother's quilt because I think it will help me let go.....garage sale as most items are in very good condition. Hubby and I are retired and on fixed income and we all know what inflation has done to everyone the past few years.
I know that she may want some of the items, but as I say, she is going to have to pay for the shipping which is quite pricey these days. That she won't do so the h*ll with her. She wouldn't appreciate the effort or expense any way and I know she wouldn't even let me know she received the items.
I am going to have Hubby get them out and start sorting things out. Time to let go of the past.
Sadly, she is my only child. When she moved out she left a pornographic picture on her bed so I would find it. Read beginning so you know why she moved out. Later she would sneak back in the house and steal things. It wasn't until she graduated (never got invite) that I changed the locks on the doors. She left a note telling me how terrible I was for doing that. Hey, too bad.