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I have been estranged from my daughter for almost 20 years

Mental Health | Last Active: Feb 29 1:38pm | Replies (29)
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@kartwk

How terrible and I truly understand. The last time I heard from her she was looking for things of hers that she wanted me to send her. I told her I would, but she would have to pay for the shipping as that is so expensive these days and we are on a fixed income. She went into her usual snit against me, how terrible I treated her, am, etc. and that was the end of that.

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refdbug | @refdbug | Feb 25 5:59pm

You have no control over your daughter only yourself Try to forgive and let go So that it doesn't continue to eat at you Just tell her you'll always love her and move on without hurt and anger ruining the time you have left. It is right to set limits for yourself - but if you want to send her stuff, if thats better for you just go ahead and do it . Don't try to malign her father because it will only hurt her and deepen your own regrets You sound as if Alanon would help you separate yourself from the grief and heartbreak So many of us suffer from torn relationships I believe focusing on the things you are grateful for and reaching out to help others gives peace and healing
If you believe in God, ask for help and to learn forgiveness.

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