Chemo delayed due to low white blood count: Disappointed
My husband was suppose to have chemo today but his white blood count was low so will go next week instead. Did that happen to anyone else? Very disappointing as he doesn’t want to postpone this. He did say it was ok to go to radiation.
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Thank you! I just hate seeing him lose weight, 20lbs so far, he’s over the half way mark so far.
I know you hate to see your husband losing weight. You feel helpless as you watch him go through this huge life challenge. From a cancer patient’s perspective, I think the caregiver may have the rougher time adapting to the new situation. As a cancer patient, we just try to get through each day with whatever happens. Our lives have changed abruptly and our personal focus has pretty much blocked out any other thoughts. Unwillingly, we become the center of everyone’s attention!
The caregiver, not so much! You are being thrust into a position of having to take over the other person’s role while they are incapacitated to varying degrees. Your life changed drastically too. But instead of lying in a bed or lounging on a sofa in fight or recovery mode, you are flying by the seat of your pants trying to keep track of everything, including items that were taken care of by your partner in the usual division of labor that comes with marriage or having a close significant other. You don’t get down time! You’re filled with worry, stress, med lists, appointment calendars, making sure your husband eats, all while trying to balance everything else.
It’s good to keep a diary of your husband’s weight so that you can bring it up with his doctors. His eating will return slowly. I did find a couple of discussions over several groups regarding chemo and not wanting to eat. This is one you could skim through for ideas of food.
When will food taste good again after chemo and radiation? https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/trying-to-get-food-into-husband-after-chemo-and-radiation/
Try the little portions of food I suggested. Think bite-sized and not pieces on a plate. I would give my husband ideas of what I ‘might’ be hungry for and maybe could get down…but usually I could only gag down a bite or two and then I felt bad for all the work he would do in vain. Eventually, I was able to eat more and my appetite gradually returned. Your husband will too! In the meantime, he may lose more weight but it’s not your fault, ok? Unfortunately, those pounds are collateral damage in his fight against cancer but they should return when treatment is over. ☺️
You always have good suggestions, and what you say about being the caregiver is right on! If the nausea pills don’t work I’ll call dr and ask if there’s something else.
Thanks
I had the same thing as your husband. Just finished in Nov 23.
Definitely trouble eating. Not just appetite but everything tastes and feels like "crap". it's really indescribable.
It is difficult especially when it first hits you. Is he getting the Chemo? Cisplatin? Do they also give him dexamethasone with chemo?
Did he get the feeding tube?
Jeff
He did have chemo, cisplatin, 3 sessions. Also 35 radiations, six more to go. No feeding tube, he’s trying hard to get things down. Mainly boost and scrambled eggs, it’s so hard for him.
How many you have left or are you done?
I completed week 7 of radiation on Nov 10 2023 so I am just recovering still. Eggs are good and I could always eat ramen noodles and oatmeal too.
I had a tube and I’m glad I did. I am 58. No doubt it is hard. He depends heavily on your support as I did from my wonderful wife!
She’s still helping me as my throat got sore again after Christmas.