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Does anyone feel old and useless with age?

Depression & Anxiety | Last Active: Mar 22 4:21pm | Replies (192)

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@navypatriot2024

I was forced out of the workforce by an on-the-job-injury. I was a professional pilot for 42 years and was very active traveling all over the world with a pretty hectic lifestyle. I had multiple hobbies and a very active social life. When I injured my back, the slow physical decline along with multiple surgeries caused me to eventually fail my FAA flight physical. All of the pilot certificates and ratings in the world are absolutely useless without a valid medical certificate. I was grounded in the space of about two years from date of injury and eventually was medically retired from my dream job of a lifetime. Of course depression set in and at first it was mild. After about 6 months it because overwhelming causing me to seek out a mental health doctor. He diagnosed me with Major Depressive Disorder (MDD). Having an actual name for my depression validated my emotions, but did nothing to alleviate my condition. When I went out I no longer had a uniform indicating my profession for all to see. Instead, I wore a tee-shirt and baggy pants. Everywhere I went I felt invisible. Being in my 60's many younger people scurried around me (being more agile) to get to the front of checkout lines because they actually had a schedule and a JOB! Because I was unable to do the hobbies I once enjoyed (SCUBA, etc.), I decided to use my life experience to help younger people who were struggling with academics. I also help veterans apply for their disability benefits from the Veterans Administration (VA). And, I volunteer as a poll worker during national elections. Bottom line... I had to switch gears and get in the right mindset, quit my "pity-party" and redirect my energy into helping others. Hope this helps someone!

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@navypatriot2024
I love your story. When your identity revolved around your job / career and that is gone due to age, disability, retirement, layoffs, etc… an import of you is gone.

I was workaholic, so limited social activities and no hobbies, never had time. Even when I retired, still found myself looking at job sites because felt I should be working.

Took long time (and depression) to finally shift my focus, accept that there is life after my career and do something about.

I look for local social activities I can attend by myself, attend lot of lecture to continue learning, volunteer at local hospital, participate in Mayo Connect , help older neighbors and other misc things that keeps me from isolation.

The "high" I got from my career is replaced by a smile when can help someone else.

Thank you for what you're doing for veterans.

Laurie

@navypatriot2024 Welcome to Mayo Clinic Connect. Finding purpose in where we are in our lives is so important. It can be different for each of us, and it really sounds like you have figured out what brings value to you!

Thank you for sharing your story.
Ginger