@joeeduffy I want to reach through this computer and give you a hug…
My goal is to calm you and help you see that this is not a death sentence for your husband. Yes, CLL is a type of blood cancer but it is not generally aggressive and people can live full and happy lives. The survival rate for people with CLL is better than for many other types of cancers…and it’s treatable. I think this will be helpful article for you to read about the prognosis of CLL patients.
https://www.verywellhealth.com/cll-prognosis-5211991
The test results that you’ve received so far should only be interpreted by your husband’s doctor for Joe’s personal situation. Comparing to someone else’s results won’t necessarily apply to your husband as they are relative to his situation.
The bone marrow biopsy results may take a week or more to be reported in its entirety. There are many components to the tests and they take time. They will come back in the portal under their own results. It may say Cytology/pathology report. My suggestion for you, as someone who’s had 13 of these, is to not look beforehand unless you know exactly what the results mean. It’s easy to misinterpret what you read and right now you’re already overwhelmed and filled with anxiety.

You mentioned trying to find local support groups. Here are two sites for you to research to see if there are any support groups in your area. The Leukemia Lymphoma Society usually has local branches. I know at my hematology office there’s a large white-board with all the information with monthly meetings at a local technical college.
https://www.lls.org/
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https://cllsociety.org/
My heart goes out to you because I can sense how desperate you are to find help and answers. You are absolutely not a failure, my dear. You love your husband and you want to make sure he’s going to be ok. This diagnosis is all so new and raw right now. But I’m expecting nothing has changed drastically except your attitudes since your husband was diagnosed, right? He wasn’t having symptoms. He’s still not. This was found in routine blood work.

This isn’t a rapidly changing life for either of you right now. It’s the same as it was last month except for the changes he’s making deliberately with stopping smoking and trying to eat healthier.
I’m trying to put this into perspective for you that life may not change much. There might not be any treatments for a long time and those are usually just a medication to take. I know you’re worried how this will impact you financially and that your husband is worried if he passes away and you’ll be left alone. All of these are wake up calls for any married couple. We have to plan for the future and every eventuality. But right now, as for his future with CLL, this level of stress and worry is premature…just please, take a few deep breaths and exhale slowly. It’s ok to cry, but try to remain calm and focus on things over which you do have some control. I think you’ll find this is all manageable. The best thing is to wait and see what the hematologist has to say on the 29th.

How is the new diet plan working out? Have you found some good recipes that follow the Mediterranean Diet?