Vaginal atrophy and painful intercourse: What helps?

Posted by Anonymous297113 @anonymous297113, Sep 27, 2022

Seems like vaginal atrophy is a taboo topic, yet so many women are suffering with this. It’s a subject so difficult to discuss with your husband, partner, doctors, etc. Many women have told me estrogen creams don’t work, Mona Lisa type treatments don’t help, and our sex lives are non-existent.

Honestly I feel almost worthless when it comes to being intimate. It’s really sad and I wish I could have normal sex again without feeling like I’m being stabbed by a knife, hiding my face crying, and swollen.

Have you found anything that helps?

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@sbrown293

Yes, I saw a physical therapist who trained me in the exercises I needed and how to do them. I noticed a difference within 3 weeks. (No undressing). She gave me printouts of the exercises. I leave them in plain sight as a reminder to do the exercises.

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Did you need a referral and did insurance cover it?

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@celia16

Did you see a physical therapist for the training? I’m not sure if I need the therapy, but would like an evaluation. Maybe, I’ll try the intercourse to see how it goes.

So glad you had good results with that therapy! My mom has had 2 surgeries for prolapse years ago. I have done kegel exercises before. I became concerned that I might be hypotonic, since I’m such an anxious person and discontinued them. Perhaps, I’ll resume them.

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I asked my primary care person if she would write an order for pelvic floor training. I probably went to 4 sessions and she printed out the pages of exercises with instructions and told me to continue them at home. I am scheduled to see my Gynecologist on Tuesday and I am hoping to have a discussion about why he didn’t recommend PFT. The therapist I saw said he probably wasn’t even aware of it. I am so thankful I didn’t have surgery to correct because there can be pretty bad side effects. Good luck!

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@celia16

Did you need a referral and did insurance cover it?

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I asked my primary care doctor to write an order for it. Apparently my Gynecologist is not aware of Pelvic Floor Training. My annual appointment is this Tuesday, and I’m going to bring it up. It’s such a better choice than surgery.

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@sbrown293

I asked my primary care person if she would write an order for pelvic floor training. I probably went to 4 sessions and she printed out the pages of exercises with instructions and told me to continue them at home. I am scheduled to see my Gynecologist on Tuesday and I am hoping to have a discussion about why he didn’t recommend PFT. The therapist I saw said he probably wasn’t even aware of it. I am so thankful I didn’t have surgery to correct because there can be pretty bad side effects. Good luck!

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So, did your primary just prescribe it, or did they have to examine you to determine if you needed it. I have a feeling, they will require me to come in.

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@celia16

So, did your primary just prescribe it, or did they have to examine you to determine if you needed it. I have a feeling, they will require me to come in.

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@celia16 In my case I needed a referral. I’ve had pelvic floor therapy in two locations and both venues required a referral. I saw my medical providers first in their respective offices and this came up during our visit. I don’t know if either would have required a visit before the referral/prescription. If you have access to a patient portal you could ask your physician for the referral/prescription. It’s worth a try anyway.

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@celia16

Did you need a referral and did insurance cover it?

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My primary provider did the referral. Yes, the my insurance. (Cigna)

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@naturegirl5

@marjou I agree with you that vaginal atrophy is not addressed in the medical community. I was told in radiation oncology to use a vaginal moisturizer because of the radiation therapy. I also use a dilator a minimum of twice a week as this keeps the tissue healthier because the radiation therapy both scars and shrinks tissue. The main reason for doing this in oncology is to make sure the vagina can be easily viewed during exams. There are apparently women who do not do this after gynecological radiation therapy and then tissue at the top 1/3 of the vagina becomes constricted.

With all that said the nurse practitioner in the Menopause and Women's Sexual Health Clinic at Mayo told me that all women, sexually active or not, should use vaginal moisturizers to prevent vaginal atrophy. This allows the woman to feel more comfortable because sometimes vaginal atrophy can cause pain and discomfort. She compared it to moisturizer any part of your body. She asked me if I apply moisturizer to my face? I answered, yes (of course I do). So now I moisturize inside and out.

Do you think you might like to try this @marjou? If yes, I can post some links to products that were recommended to me and tell more about what I like to use (This post is already too long!).

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I am very interested in a vaginal moisturiser.
I am in a high risk category for cancer in females thank-you

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I used premarin cream twice a week & it worked great. I can no longer take it due to the anastrozole I'm taking for breast cancer (lumpectomy stage 1A). I dried up just like you & intercourse is impossible & my partner understands, we just find other ways, forplay etc., it works. You just have to use it right, twice a week to keep your self pliable. Also, use a very small amount. I'd change doctors who are more knowledgeable on HRT. It's also been said that if you have taken HRT right after menopause you should be fine, but I'd only recommend the cream in very small dose.

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@naturegirl5

@marjou I agree with you that vaginal atrophy is not addressed in the medical community. I was told in radiation oncology to use a vaginal moisturizer because of the radiation therapy. I also use a dilator a minimum of twice a week as this keeps the tissue healthier because the radiation therapy both scars and shrinks tissue. The main reason for doing this in oncology is to make sure the vagina can be easily viewed during exams. There are apparently women who do not do this after gynecological radiation therapy and then tissue at the top 1/3 of the vagina becomes constricted.

With all that said the nurse practitioner in the Menopause and Women's Sexual Health Clinic at Mayo told me that all women, sexually active or not, should use vaginal moisturizers to prevent vaginal atrophy. This allows the woman to feel more comfortable because sometimes vaginal atrophy can cause pain and discomfort. She compared it to moisturizer any part of your body. She asked me if I apply moisturizer to my face? I answered, yes (of course I do). So now I moisturize inside and out.

Do you think you might like to try this @marjou? If yes, I can post some links to products that were recommended to me and tell more about what I like to use (This post is already too long!).

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I’d love to have those links too. Thanks!

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@ladonnaa

I had ovarian cancer, so, total hysterectomy. I also have Sjogrens Disease, (dry eyes, dry mouth, dry skin….dry everything). I was so uncomfortable when I went to my gynecologist. I had not seen her for awhile, as, I saw my oncologist for checkups. My gynecologist diagnosed me, knew I could not take Estrace because of the cancer, so, suggested coconut oil. I have been using coconut oil for about 4 years now. It is wonderful. I purchased vaginal applicators online, and use it everyday, am & pm. No pain ever.

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I use coconut oil as a lube during intercourse, but am interested in hearing how you use it with a vaginal applicator. Since coconut oil starts as a solid, but becomes a liquid when it warms up, do you have a lot of drainage after application? How much do you use? Have you found coconut oil in a tube that you can attach to the applicator to fill it? If not, how do you fill the tube?

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