Dating with digestive health issues?

Posted by cyberkitty @cyberkitty, Jan 30 5:53pm

Has anyone tried dating someone with a ‘normal’ GI tract??? I imagine there would be some awkward conversations & situations. Seems easier to start a relationship with someone with digestive health issues. A lot more understanding and compassion would be exchanged, I imagine.
Or was everyone already in a long term relationship & madly in love before their symptoms progressed?
Asking for a friend 😜

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@celia16

@cyberkitty ,
I’ve been wondering the same thing about dating right now. I’ve worked so hard to get fit and to reach “date weight.” 😉 So, to have the digestive issue cramp my style, pardon the pun…lol….is frustrating. I sure hope I can get it resolved soon. I just don’t want to start out having to explain things….🥴

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question. what is "Date Weight"? it does not really resolve. maybe go into remission is the best you can hope for. but, even then you'll ALWAYS have it. as far as i know. there is NO CURE. sorry to be the party pooper 💩💩.

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@rmv65

I actually had the gastric sleeve surgery to try to cure gastroparesis. I wasn't really that big, and actually had to gain some weight to qualify. Worst decision ever! It did cure my gastroparesis and I had about 8 great years, until my connective tissue disorder caused an even greater failure in my digestive system, and then I had to convert to bypass or face esophogeal cancer. Then I got so thin and malnourished we thought I was going to die. If there is anyone who understands digestive issues, it's anyone who has ever had any type of bariatric surgery. Some of those guys look GOOD too! 🙂 They tend to be more health and diet focused, and since they have eating restrictions they totally get it! With a shorter bowel comes gas, bloating, and some days your stomach will accept food, and some it will not. Since they have loose skin they tend to be shy about dating. There are some hotties on the bariatric support groups. LOL!

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@mv63 ,
You really have been through a lot. I appreciate that info. Thanks for the tips!

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@danny5

question. what is "Date Weight"? it does not really resolve. maybe go into remission is the best you can hope for. but, even then you'll ALWAYS have it. as far as i know. there is NO CURE. sorry to be the party pooper 💩💩.

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@danny5 ,
My girlfriends and I call it “date weight” to describe the size we feel comfortable with our bodies. For me, it’s when I feel fit and comfortable being intimate. Maybe, my body size shouldn’t matter, but for me…most of my life I have been slim to average size. Normally 130 pounds and when I gained a lot…I didn’t feel like myself. I didn’t intend to imply others should be a certain weight.

My digestive issues started September 2022. I’m not sure what the cause is, but I’m hoping it can be corrected and I can return to normal function. I do have Type 1 diabetes and that will never change unless I get a pancreas transplant, which is unlikely. But, I’m used to that. 😊

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@scottrl

I married later in life (almost 39), and went out with a fair number of women. (I'm not bragging; apparently girls would kiss me and discover I was still a frog, so they moved on.)

Trust me, past about age 25, everybody has something weird about them. (This means that the guys aren't perfect, either.)

While you don't have to be graphic about it, you can say you're on a restrictive diet. I've dealt with vegetarians, vegans, religious dieters, allergy sufferers, you name it.

The only ones who bothered me were those who could only eat food from very expensive restaurants.

Good luck!

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Still single? 😜

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@cyberkitty

Seeking single male with digestive issues who is interested in cancelling plans last minute, bland diets, separate washrooms, Imodium and Netflix.

Think that will bring the boys calling??
😂

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I think after meeting all of you I’m pretty set on finding a man with digestive issues. At least the sense of humour is built in. We all have bad days but at least we can have a good laugh at ourselves. (Probably a coping mechanism but fun nonetheless)

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@cyberkitty

Still single? 😜

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Nope. Happily married for quite a while.

Good thing, too. When I had a stroke five years ago, I wouldn't have survived without a helpmate and a reason to keep going.

For more about that, here's my YouTube channel:
https://www.youtube.com/@srlucado/videos

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I’ve been married 20 years to my 2 nd husband.
Been so chronically sick with my digestive disorders last 10 years.
He’s very understanding as he sees how it’s completely changed my life for the worse. I think dating would be so difficult like this but I’m sure you could find someone understanding or someone who’s in same boat .
I wouldn’t wish all this on my worst enemy.
Don’t give up on love ❤️ though .
Be honest w/ the person you date ahead of time . That’s the best way .
Good luck 🍀

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@celia16

@danny5 ,
My girlfriends and I call it “date weight” to describe the size we feel comfortable with our bodies. For me, it’s when I feel fit and comfortable being intimate. Maybe, my body size shouldn’t matter, but for me…most of my life I have been slim to average size. Normally 130 pounds and when I gained a lot…I didn’t feel like myself. I didn’t intend to imply others should be a certain weight.

My digestive issues started September 2022. I’m not sure what the cause is, but I’m hoping it can be corrected and I can return to normal function. I do have Type 1 diabetes and that will never change unless I get a pancreas transplant, which is unlikely. But, I’m used to that. 😊

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ok. i was just hoping you weren't trying to get to some unhealthy weight that society shames women to do. because you have enough to deal with right now. actually more than enough.

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@danny5

ok. i was just hoping you weren't trying to get to some unhealthy weight that society shames women to do. because you have enough to deal with right now. actually more than enough.

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@danny5 ,

Right. I’m trying to get my priorities straight. I think being overwhelmed is one reason I ended up here. But, I won’t give up on love. My last serious relationship was a couple of years ago. He has passed away. He was considerably older than me. I suddenly felt the desire for a new relationship this past summer. I hope it happens. 🫰

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@celia16

@danny5 ,

Right. I’m trying to get my priorities straight. I think being overwhelmed is one reason I ended up here. But, I won’t give up on love. My last serious relationship was a couple of years ago. He has passed away. He was considerably older than me. I suddenly felt the desire for a new relationship this past summer. I hope it happens. 🫰

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CONGRATULATIONS ON your choice to look again. i hope it works out for you. i know i'm still looking. we all deserve love & happiness.

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