I don't have a lot of personal experience with this but have some. My thinking for what its worth...

My first recommendation is to see a physician (like a psychiatrist, not a therapist) in addition to your therapist that has a lot of experience with anxiety, depression and medications to help figure this out. What you're taking now is clearly not working.

As you probably have experienced, getting the right meds and right dosage requires time - first to get off what you're on and second to build up a new therapeutic dose level of something that may work better. It often requires a lot of experimentation to figure out what works and what doesn't - none of which can be done quickly. The drugs all have side effects (some serious) and largely unknown effects when taking more than one.

Hopefully someone with more experience with this can be of more help.

I wish good health for both you and your husband.