I know that many things are running through your head right now. For me, I had to wait months for surgery after my biopsy and again, for me, that was the worst part. The surgery was nothing compared to waiting, agonizing, reading others stories, and fearing the worst. I dreaded the catheter the most but it really wasn't that big of a deal. I only had it for seven days. I stocked up on pads due to things I read about incontinence but I didn't even need them. I feared leaking and incontinence but I ended up being fully continent when the catheter was removed. I had a median lobe growing into my bladder so I'm actually peeing much better now.I'm still working on e.d. but making progress. Honestly the fear and anxiety was worse on me than the surgery. My cancer was upgraded after surgery so i' m blessed that I got it out when I did. I chose surgery due to my age and pre-existing urinary problems. I also was blessed to have a great surgeon. Prayers and blessing to you as well my friend