Sharing even the embarrassing stuff to recover: Meet @linda82

Jun 12 8:00am | Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Comments (50)

Member spotlight, @Linda82

TERESA: What brought you to Mayo Clinic Connect?

@linda82: I was searching many sites to find other people to connect with who live with the same condition I have — diverticulitis. I also wanted to find out if surgery for diverticulitis helped other patients and how it changed their lives.

I finally found Mayo Clinic Connect and liked that it was monitored. It was awesome to find a place where you could get so much information from people who live with the same health issue. 

TERESA: What motivates you to take part in Mayo Clinic Connect?

@linda82: Everyday, people share experiences, insights, actual results, and more. I enjoy offering help and support where I can.

TERESA: What about Mayo Clinic Connect makes you feel comfortable to share and to be open with the community?

@linda82: On Mayo Clinic Connect, you can control how much you share. With not having your personal information “out there" you are free to be truly honest. It is awesome how kind everyone is and how open they are with their willingness to share.

TERESA: What support groups do you participate in?

@linda82: I take part in the discussions in the Digestive Health support group.

TERESA: Tell us about a meaningful moment on Mayo Clinic Connect.

@linda82: After the surgery, it was helpful hearing from other members about their recovery experiences. I shared my questions and concerns. When they replied, saying they went through the same healing process, it was a relief!

With digestive issues, some concerns or issues are embarrassing. I posted about feeling pain when sitting down after surgery. It felt like I had a broom up the rectum. A member replied that he understood and reassured me not to worry because that feeling will go away. And it did!

Everyone is so understanding. It is also satisfying when someone comments that I helped them.

TERESA: What surprised you the most about Mayo Clinic Connect?

@linda82: While we may have different health issues at different stages, real connections are made when we share our experiences and discover our similarities. I really like that the discussions are monitored and moderated. 

TERESA: What energizes you, or how do you find balance in your life?

@linda82: I have always enjoyed working out and really depend on physical activity for its mental and health benefits. 

Before I retired, I was on call 24/7 in a very stressful world of logistics. Many times, I would have to drive back to the office in the middle of the night, stay on site for over 12 hours and deal with endless phone calls from customers all over the world. It was hard to take time to eat right and keep moving. There were many times I just wanted to throw my phones out the door!

I had to find some form of balance to survive. I think that is why, now that I am retired, I like gardening in the silence of nature without interruptions. I have created so many different gardens on my land. I enjoy saving seeds from my plants and giving them away to friends and family. I also love to give plants from my gardens to bee keepers who in turn give me honey.

TERESA: Tell us about your favorite pastime or activity.

@linda82: I am a military brat and have lived in many places abroad and in the US. I loved to travel and to go to events with friends. With my stomach issues, all of that went away. I hope to resume traveling again. At the moment, I’m still struggling mentally with the fear and anxiety of another episode happening. It hasn’t, so I’m working on accepting that I might be able to travel again.

TERESA: Do you have a favorite quote, life motto or personal mantra?

@linda82: "If you are going through hell, keep going." ~ unknown, sometimes attributed to General Patten or Sir Winston Churchill

TERESA: What food can you simply not resist? 

@linda82: Anything Italian or Mediterranean. 

TERESA: What do you love about where you live or vacation?

@linda82: I live in a rural area and enjoy the simple quiet life. I look forward to visiting National Parks again.

Member Spotlights feature interviews with fellow Mayo Clinic Connect members. Learn more about members you’ve connected with and some you haven’t met yet. Nominate a member you think should share the spotlight.

See more Member Spotlights.

Interested in more newsfeed posts like this? Go to the About Connect: Who, What & Why blog.

@lindybowers

Good morning Linda. I loved reading your story, and I can totally relate to you. I'm retired, live in New York, and my organic garden has become the center of my days. I'm 75, and struggle with poly neuropathy, and dimming vision. I've healed liver steatosis in 2024 with an anti inflammatory food plan I created. Basically I'm all alone and managing a large house and 800 sq foot garden, I do the best that I can. Food is the answer. We are what we eat, and I'm still tweaking menus. The garden's hard work, the 4 months of sowing seeds indoors throughout my main living spaces under many hanging grow lights has paid-off. The garden is now giving back with fresh, just picked, nourishing organic food. I began to have digestive problems this winter & chronic constipation so I saw a gastroenterologist who did my first colonoscopy in 2001 when I was 51. My Mom died of CRC at age 74. I was also 74. I told the gastro doc I needed my next colonoscopy and that I discovered I had hemorrhoids that looked severe (either stage 3 or 4) He looked old and burned out. Never examined me on April 1. Said he'd look at them on July 7 when he'd do the procedure. My hemorrhoids are severe. I should have seen a protologist. How can my gastro doc do a colonoscopy and address possible hemorrhoid surgery at the same time?? I'm worried. I feel large bumps around the area of the hemorrhoids. I mistrust many specialist doctors. They compartmentalize your body and only adrress their specialty. I do believe they limit their time and services based on what insurance you have, and need to label your symptoms with a diagnosis that pays them the most. My digestive system is back on track after eating only pure, whole simple foods. What a relief. I refuse to take any drugs or pain meds. But I'm so worried about this gastro doctor. Now he's going on vacation and called to cancel July 7. I told my Primary Care geriatric doctor, and she said nothing. It makes me think there is "agism" in the medical field. We are the disposable patients. Sounds dreadful and pesimisstic, but there is some truth to this. We have to heal ourselves. I'd love to hear about your garden. My name is Linda, too. (picture of one of my many gardens. June 13 2025. Swiss chard, peas, kale, carrots, broccoli, broccolini, onions, cabbage, string beans, asparagus) Roman chamomile to help deter aphids.

Jump to this post

Lindy you said in your previous post: " My hemorrhoids are severe. I should have seen a protologist. How can my gastro doc do a colonoscopy and address possible hemorrhoid surgery at the same time?? I'm worried. I feel large bumps around the area of the hemorrhoids. I mistrust many specialist doctors."

I'd like to address hemorrhoids. Being the unlucky owner of pretty severe hemorrhoids myself. Hemorrhoids are almost always associated with either a) difficult bowel movements; 2) repeated vaginally delivery childbirth - OR even one difficult vaginal delivery, let alone multiple deliveries over a woman's lifespan; 3) lifting too much weight too many times, without having Kegel's engaged during the lifting; 4) being overweight for long periods of a lifetime; 5) anal sex trauma; or 6) other trauma.

It appears from your post that your doctor said he would "take a look" when he did the scheduled colonoscopy. This means he would take photos with the scope, as all scopes have a camera, and since he had planned to be down there he was going to take photos and assess them; not perform surgery at that time.

Let me address specialists. Personally, I PREFER specialists. I also deplore SOME insurance companies who make us all jump through hoops just to GET to the point we CAN see a specialist for a very specific problem we, ourselves have discovered.

Example: I kept going to my "primary care gate keeper" at the VA for TWO years, referencing my neck sounding like a garbage disposal when I turn it and fits of excruciating pain associated with such grinding when I would try to turn my head, especially to the left. After the younger (50yo) primary care gate keeper physician kept telling me it was just "old age" and to expect such...I finally demanded an MRI of my cervical spine. He ordered an X-ray of my lumbar spine. That took six months to straighten out: he entered the wrong body part wrong. Then the X-ray finally got done THIS April. Then an MRI was ordered by this bozo: he ordered the wrong body part AGAIN: my lumbar spine INSTEAD of my cervical (neck) spine. I finally got MRI of my cervical spine and now am seeing a neurologist because my cervical spine is pretty much hosed....and I am going to have cervical spine surgery as my discs are bulging in THREE spaces pressing on my spine. And I even asked ONE second opinion "Nurse Practitioner" IF the MRI showed any spinal cord compression...and HE told me "No...". SO, I knew better, as I too can READ X-rays, so I went and got a THIRD opinion.

I ALWAYS get second or even third opinion on everything if I get even an inkling someone is not doing their job correctly or my intuition tells me something isn't logical.

I feel sorry for those not in the medical field as I have been since 1980: patients beware.

Note: By law Medicare must let you have one or two if you seek to do so. Your life and health depend on it.

REPLY
@linda82

Good afternoon, Linda!
I am so glad you get to enjoy your garden and all the benefits it provides! Beautiful picture!

From your remarks"
"How can my gastro doc do a colonoscopy and address possible hemorrhoid surgery at the same time??"
I know that I had this too and my GI Dr. did not recommend surgery. Have you seen a colon Dr?

I think I have been fortunate with my Dr.'s.
My family Dr. recommended both my GI and Colon Rectal Surgeon.
I also, did all my "investigating"
My family Dr. also has no problem in sharing alternative vitamins, minerals, diet. LIKE YOU, I too do not want to be on any med's. I would rather have my Dr. tell me... Well, you need to change your diet, you need to exercise more, etc. Not only tell me but give suggestions and listen to my needs.
Example - I sent her a message through our MYChart. Do I have to go every 6 mth's for a mammogram? I have not had breast cancer, and it is not in my family. I have very dense breast, and they are always looking at an area on the side. I am always in pain after these. I asked her why I have to keep getting them (which are ordered through my GYNO) She said to start taking Vit E and evening of primrose oil every day and it should help with the pain. It has help and I do not have to take Advil. JUST FYI I started taking both of them together when I was 35. At 47 I was told I went through Meno pause and only had maybe a couple of night sweets and hot flashes. I quit taken the Evening of Primrose when I turned 52. I thought I did not need anymore.

I would love to find out more about your Roman chamomile. I would not have survived all these years without my Chamomile Tea!
I have tried to grow and process without a good outcome:)

Jump to this post

Roman Chamomile and German Chamomile are different. I prefer drinking German Chamomile. The Roman chamomile is a garden warrior. Once you sow the seeds, you'll always have them. In mid June the small plants have grown into massive plants loaded with 100's of flowers. They attract the hover fly - your garden's best friend to keep aphids at bay. If you have brassica plants like broccoli and brussel sprouts and kale, you will get aphids - little leaf sucking bugs. The hover fly will help eradicate the aphids by laying eggs that hatch into larvae that eat the aphids. This picture is Roman chamomile. Roman chamomile (Chamaemelum nobile (L.) All.) and the other is German chamomile (Matricaria recutita L.) - two different species of plant commonly called chamomile. Roman chamomile, formerly classified as Anthemis nobilis L., is a creeping, herbaceous perennial native to western Europe and North Africa.

REPLY
@slarson14

Lindy you said in your previous post: " My hemorrhoids are severe. I should have seen a protologist. How can my gastro doc do a colonoscopy and address possible hemorrhoid surgery at the same time?? I'm worried. I feel large bumps around the area of the hemorrhoids. I mistrust many specialist doctors."

I'd like to address hemorrhoids. Being the unlucky owner of pretty severe hemorrhoids myself. Hemorrhoids are almost always associated with either a) difficult bowel movements; 2) repeated vaginally delivery childbirth - OR even one difficult vaginal delivery, let alone multiple deliveries over a woman's lifespan; 3) lifting too much weight too many times, without having Kegel's engaged during the lifting; 4) being overweight for long periods of a lifetime; 5) anal sex trauma; or 6) other trauma.

It appears from your post that your doctor said he would "take a look" when he did the scheduled colonoscopy. This means he would take photos with the scope, as all scopes have a camera, and since he had planned to be down there he was going to take photos and assess them; not perform surgery at that time.

Let me address specialists. Personally, I PREFER specialists. I also deplore SOME insurance companies who make us all jump through hoops just to GET to the point we CAN see a specialist for a very specific problem we, ourselves have discovered.

Example: I kept going to my "primary care gate keeper" at the VA for TWO years, referencing my neck sounding like a garbage disposal when I turn it and fits of excruciating pain associated with such grinding when I would try to turn my head, especially to the left. After the younger (50yo) primary care gate keeper physician kept telling me it was just "old age" and to expect such...I finally demanded an MRI of my cervical spine. He ordered an X-ray of my lumbar spine. That took six months to straighten out: he entered the wrong body part wrong. Then the X-ray finally got done THIS April. Then an MRI was ordered by this bozo: he ordered the wrong body part AGAIN: my lumbar spine INSTEAD of my cervical (neck) spine. I finally got MRI of my cervical spine and now am seeing a neurologist because my cervical spine is pretty much hosed....and I am going to have cervical spine surgery as my discs are bulging in THREE spaces pressing on my spine. And I even asked ONE second opinion "Nurse Practitioner" IF the MRI showed any spinal cord compression...and HE told me "No...". SO, I knew better, as I too can READ X-rays, so I went and got a THIRD opinion.

I ALWAYS get second or even third opinion on everything if I get even an inkling someone is not doing their job correctly or my intuition tells me something isn't logical.

I feel sorry for those not in the medical field as I have been since 1980: patients beware.

Note: By law Medicare must let you have one or two if you seek to do so. Your life and health depend on it.

Jump to this post

Thank you so much for sharing. I had every other disc herniated and or bulged and I never had surgery. I had a great chiropractor. I was an EMT lifting patients onto gurneys and also a Master Gardener digging and hoeing for decades in the gardens. Lifting very heavy things. And I had 3 children. Now ages 54, 53, and 33. Two over 9 lbs and my last child, at age 41, was over 10 lbs. As for the gastro doctor, he should have explained to me what you just did. So lazy and indifferent. He must be suffering from Isolation of Affect after 40 plus years of dealing with "assholes" 🙂 Thank you for clearing my mind and helping me to understand. My mom died at age 74 of CRC and I'm 75 with bleeding huge lumps externally showing. It freaked me out when the blood started this week. You are way too kind calling your PCP a "bozo". How exhausting having to deal with these mistakes. Sorry that you had to go through all this red tape nonsense due to an incompetent doctor. Be very careful with spinal surgery. My cardiologist just told me to "never allow any doctor to cut you open unless it's life and death." He must have some inside witnessing of this in his medical practice. Scary!!! Linda from NY

REPLY
@lindybowers

Roman Chamomile and German Chamomile are different. I prefer drinking German Chamomile. The Roman chamomile is a garden warrior. Once you sow the seeds, you'll always have them. In mid June the small plants have grown into massive plants loaded with 100's of flowers. They attract the hover fly - your garden's best friend to keep aphids at bay. If you have brassica plants like broccoli and brussel sprouts and kale, you will get aphids - little leaf sucking bugs. The hover fly will help eradicate the aphids by laying eggs that hatch into larvae that eat the aphids. This picture is Roman chamomile. Roman chamomile (Chamaemelum nobile (L.) All.) and the other is German chamomile (Matricaria recutita L.) - two different species of plant commonly called chamomile. Roman chamomile, formerly classified as Anthemis nobilis L., is a creeping, herbaceous perennial native to western Europe and North Africa.

Jump to this post

WOW

That is beautiful !

REPLY

If you have frank frequent rectal bleeding someone needs to examine you.

I have the hemorroid "lumps" too, but they come and go; and no frank rectal bleeding, only now and then a bit of bleeding after a "hard stool effort session".

My "lumps" are much like the firm lumps on someone who has severe lumpy bumpy varicose veins; and very firm lumps. Instead of mine being on my legs (which have zero varicose veins by the way) they are around what my Marine Corps husband calls my "Poop Chute".

As in parachute. Is so educational married to a career Marine. LOL

REPLY
@lindybowers

Thank you so much for sharing. I had every other disc herniated and or bulged and I never had surgery. I had a great chiropractor. I was an EMT lifting patients onto gurneys and also a Master Gardener digging and hoeing for decades in the gardens. Lifting very heavy things. And I had 3 children. Now ages 54, 53, and 33. Two over 9 lbs and my last child, at age 41, was over 10 lbs. As for the gastro doctor, he should have explained to me what you just did. So lazy and indifferent. He must be suffering from Isolation of Affect after 40 plus years of dealing with "assholes" 🙂 Thank you for clearing my mind and helping me to understand. My mom died at age 74 of CRC and I'm 75 with bleeding huge lumps externally showing. It freaked me out when the blood started this week. You are way too kind calling your PCP a "bozo". How exhausting having to deal with these mistakes. Sorry that you had to go through all this red tape nonsense due to an incompetent doctor. Be very careful with spinal surgery. My cardiologist just told me to "never allow any doctor to cut you open unless it's life and death." He must have some inside witnessing of this in his medical practice. Scary!!! Linda from NY

Jump to this post

Am afraid of chiropractors.
I used one once, he popped my neck and it hurt like bloody hell. Sometimes I have wondered if he didn't break my neck, but I am still walking. That was years and years ago.

I have a pain med doc, he injects pain meds into my neck until if and when I do decide to have surgery. Am wanting some sort of disc cement and for them to root-rooter off bone spurs causing issues because the pain is such I won't move my head normally and that is causing muscle issues, muscles are not staying toned due to pain.

So I exercise my neck when and if I feel safe nowadays. Avoid my computer being down below eye level; keep it up on a stand at eye level or just a bit above.

REPLY
@slarson14

We all need to stay moving physically as we age.
When we stop moving for whatever reason, we die faster.
It isn't so much age, but physical LACK of physical movement that predisposes us to earlier deaths.

Physical, mental and spiritual exercise and movement = longevity.

Jump to this post

Agreed, Right now its real hot here in Arizona so its the Gym 3 times a week, 30 min on the elliptical and 30 on weight machines, But as fall comes again I love to walk usually 3-5 miles at least 4 times a week. One reason I love Arizona most of the year is just Gorgeous . The reference to the C-diff was a pain but its been 6 years so I dint let me become a couch potato. Its just I prepared for it and tried to have a few public restrooms on my walks.

REPLY
@danab

Agreed, Right now its real hot here in Arizona so its the Gym 3 times a week, 30 min on the elliptical and 30 on weight machines, But as fall comes again I love to walk usually 3-5 miles at least 4 times a week. One reason I love Arizona most of the year is just Gorgeous . The reference to the C-diff was a pain but its been 6 years so I dint let me become a couch potato. Its just I prepared for it and tried to have a few public restrooms on my walks.

Jump to this post

I too l am a desert rat. I have my trainer bike in a bedroom in summers. My house is zoned air conditioning, where the air conditioning can be dropped to 68-70 degrees while I do my hour long interval training on that bike. Exhausting, but keeps me going.

Otherwise, it is hiking the mountains 3-4 times a week from late October through May each year.

Have been in Arizona most of my life, beginning in 1961.

As we age, our life patterns seem to always include: where is the nearest pitt stop or bush to hide behind.

REPLY

@linda82, I wish you the best for a continued recovery.

I trust you will be able to travel again. Sixteen mothns ago, when I had my low anterior resection (I no longer have neither a rectum, sigmoid nor mesorectum), I thought it would take at least a year before I'd be able to travel again. Well, not even three month later, I took a 1.5 hour flight for a work week-end. My colleagues accomodated me in a room on my own, so my frequent need to use the bathroom would not bother anybody, and I only had two small accidents noone noticed. Five months after my surgery, I was able to take a trip that implied two 2-hour flights each way. So, don't despair!

REPLY

I am interested in any information that I can get on pituataty tumors. Daughter was recently diagnosed with one. She had been having debilitating headaches for 6 months and many other symptoms. She's exhausted , weak. Joint pain heck pain nausea, occ vomiting eye problems. Pituatary tumor 6 x 4 x 2. Doctors are dying this tumor is too small to Cassius these effects. Nothing helps her pain. Mri was done and fd pituatary tumor. Is there any feedback on the above or suggestions about what will help headaches? She had tried tylenol. Excedrin headache,motrin,aleve naproxyn , magnesium. Any suggestions?

REPLY
Please sign in or register to post a reply.