I have suffered anxiety all my life. Antidepressants, well I have taken so many I’ve lost count with no help at all. Benzodiazapines such as Klonopin, Valium, Xanax etc work wonders in the short term but as soon as tolerance builds I need to take a break from them. Buspar is used for anxiety but is not a benzo and actually made me more anxious. However, the worst medication I was on was Seroquel. It did absolutely nothing for the anxiety and although it made me drowsy it also gave me horrible bouts of restless leg syndrome which sounds benign enough until you have it as it is hard to put into words. I also had trouble swallowing, I was dizzy all the time, and my cholesterol went through the roof. Everyone is different but that for me was a nightmare. A doctor has no right to be mad at you for how you feel. If he does get that way get another doctor who listens to your fears and concerns. Lyrica usually used for neuropathy is by far the best medicine I’ve taken in conjunction with Trazadone for sleep, klonopin (the benzo) once tolerance develops still works in conjunction with the Lyrica. I take 150 mg 3x a day. Klonopin 1-2 mg a day. I also take 250 mg of trazadone as anxiety and depression along with insomnia is like a three pronged enemy playing tag team. Trazadone, a very old medication is the only antidepressant that words for me and it is great for sleep and none of these meds give me any side affects.
I also have heard that TMS (look it up) I believe it stands for trans magnetic stimulation once only used for depression just got approved for anxiety and that is what I want to try. I hear it works wonders for depression and it is a simple procedure that is somehow is placed on the brain in the area affected which varies from person to person so the patient is awake for the procedure(I think) as only by moving the device and hearing feedback from the patient does the doctor know it is placed properly.
Also there is genetic testing which can point out which meds are going to be effective for your body and which will not.
There is hope. For years I was a shut in who could not leave the house unless sedated and now I am still not perfect but better than I’ve ever been. You may want to look up local clinical trials for your condition and see if you qualify.,
Hope this helps and good luck.