Jodee I have been MIA for a while as well. Technically I am no longer a care giver any longer due to the deaths in my family. In reading your post I am making a leap that we work in similar areas. I wanted to address your mention of EAP. Go check them out. There are some great references. Go check out past webinare series. There are some on caregiving. Also some resources for wills etc. Not something any of us wants to thinking about but something all need to do. As I am dealing with family as the personal representative for my parents will I encourage everyone to be nice to their loved ones and get things in writing with your signature and date. Believe me when I say people will become vicious, cruel, evil, nasty, hateful, and both emotionally and physically threatening over money and things after a death. Even those who profess their great religious fervor. Best of luck. While you are caring for your husband and family don't forget to take time for yourself every now and again. You are of no use if you burn out!