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2 days ago · ~ Depressed and scared, not making it financially ~ in Mental Health

It's just me (Abby) …. I don't come around much anymore. Seems all I do is say the same thing over and over again. Nothing changes since I moved down here – Staunton, VA from Frederick, MD. They say southerners are "warm and friendly" …. good, but I have not found that to be true. I've given up. I pretty much just stay here in my apartment alone. Now that we're quarantined for another month, it suits me fine.
Also, I found out today that my only close girlfriend (who is in Frederick) may have bladder cancer. I don't quite know what that involves, but it doesn't sound good at all.
I can't wait til this is all over.
abby

Sun, Mar 1 8:30am · ~ Depressed and scared, not making it financially ~ in Mental Health

Is anybody there? I know I haven't been on the site for awhile, but it would be nice to hear from someone.
abby

Sun, Feb 23 9:06pm · ~ Depressed and scared, not making it financially ~ in Mental Health

I honestly don't know where to post anymore. I've been using Mental Health, but now there's 238 and I doubt if anyone goes to the end to read the most recent one ….. in all truth, I don't.
Help?
abby

Sun, Feb 23 9:06pm · ~ Depressed and scared, not making it financially ~ in Mental Health

I will make this as short as possible. When I was divorced, over 10 years ago (after a 43 year marriage) I did not ask for alimony as I had a substantial inheritance. Well, I ran. into an unscrupulous money manager (suggested to me) and he was running a ponzi scheme. I was left with much less than I had, probably not enough to live on til my end. I live in a low-cost apartment, can barely pay my bills, buy absolutely nothing fun, and sometimes my rent is late. My X is doing great – big house, goes everywhere – Europe, etc. Now considering that I did not ask for alimony because at that time I had plenty of money. I talked to my lawyer about this and she told me the case could be reopened IF he was working, which he is not. I am considering writing to him, carefully (he's a narcissist) and ask him to please consider giving me some extra $ each month, considering I did not ask for it before. I had what I thought was plenty, and "didn't want to make him live like a pauper." Part of me says "do it" and the other part says "no." He's well aware of my situation. If it were not for my dear son, who sends me money each month, I'd never make the monthly payments.
abby
abby

Thu, Jan 2 2:14pm · Anyone have depersonalization disorder (DPD)? Want to discuss. in Mental Health

Hi there …. yes, when I was going through the worst of my life at home as a child, and also during my marriage, I experienced this regularly. It is as if you are two different people, mentally. I would be driving down the street and suddenly I felt like I was driving in a tube with no one else around. Often these splits would happen when I was most stressed. Then I realized I did this a lot as a kid, as a form of protection. Raised in an alcoholic home, I always felt at risk, threatened, so I just "left" ….. mentally. It's scary when it happens and few people know about it, but with excellent therapy from a Psychologist and medication from an excellent Psychiatrist, it finally stopped. During my divorce, it would happen occasionally , so that I could "go away" from the hurt and pain. People who have not experienced this have no idea, and it sounds a little weird, but believe me, it isn't. I think there are a lot of us out there who do this, but are afraid to admit it. Take care,
abby

Thu, Jan 2 1:44pm · When is the Right Time to Move? in Charter House

I made the move to an apartment to be closer to my 2 daughters. My son lives in D.C. The girls are sweet as can be …. I only see them about once a week, but they have families to take care of and I understand that. I'm waiting for a first floor, 2 bedroom senior apartment to open up not far from me. The apartments here are pretty sketchy …. I never go out at night, my keys were stolen, the kids throw eggs at cars, as you drive by they holler all sorts of foul things at you ….. there's one building known at the Crack House. I've been here 3 years and I'm done. So many times I've wanted to go back to the city and state I came from, but that's not possible anymore. I'm Bipolar 2, some days are fairly good and some are awful. I'm hoping when I move to the Senior Building, it will be better and I won't miss my former city and state so much. I guess my advice would be to BE SURE this is what YOU want to do, and aren't pressured into moving by others, no matter how well meaning. Good Luck.
abby

Thu, Jan 2 1:04pm · Anyone know of long distance transportation assistance? in Just Want to Talk

I don't know where you're going or if there's a rail going there, but every Oct. I used to take the train from Washington D.C. to St. Louis to visit my son when he had his Fall break during October. I got a family unit which has a sink, shower, toilet, bed, and chair and table. But to get those you have to call REAL early. I loved the train. Good Luck
abby

Dec 31, 2019 · Having trouble keeping your balance? in Healthy Living

Hi everyone …. I usually hang out at the Anxiety and Depression Board, but I felt this was a more appropriate place for my question. I take 2 meds. which can cause balance problems. Also, about a year ago, I started to really have to be careful, or I'd lose my balance and fall. Also, when I told my doctor that I had taken a nasty fall about the same time, and had a concussion …. he told me I was "mighty lucky it wasn't worse." Since then, I really have to be careful. I've gotten myself one of the Greatcall things for around my neck in case I fall and really hurt myself. Could a fall like this, on concrete, have done something in my head to cause the increase in balance problems? Any input you can give me would be greatly appreciated.
abby