Sounds like the mood stabilizer is a good thing. Thank goodness my husband finally has stopped taking the prednisone. It gave him cataracts after he took it for a long time (10 years). Hope you don’t have to stay on it too long.
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Aug 17, 2012 · I hope you are doing okay! I haven't been on this site in Just Want to Talk
I hope you are doing okay! I haven’t been on this site in a bit. I’m wondering if you have gotten any help for YOU? i have gone to a psychologist several times by myself to deal with my husband and some of his personality issues (anger, stonewalling me, punishing me with silent treatment, etc.). Let me know how you are doing, please. I care. @tamsuperstar
I’m just wondering if there are other married people out there that ever feel lonely in their marriages. I went through something for a few years and don’t know if it was just some sort of emotional affair or if I fell in love with someone other than my husband. It is really weird because I don’t see this man at work any more and still miss him every day. Anyone else have any advice, how do you forget someone that you really care about but you know it is wrong to think of them often and feel more love for them than you should?
I agree with getting outdoors and creating new experiences for oneself. There is a definite therapeutic benefit to spending time with nature. Learning about new subjects and staying active, exercising, varying ones’ schedule and making changes that are positive are all great suggestions. In fact, I think that people that are stuck in ruts (even if it is just driving the same way to work every day) are more likely to have problems when things they can’t control suddenly change.
I am not so sure about how the brain makes the chemicals it needs to properly function and keep a mind alert and moods stable. I do know that I have experienced trauma in my life that probably led to PTSD which was added to a major depression recurrent diagnosis. There was no choice other than medication and talk therapy combo which eventually brought me back out of the black hole I was in. I believe that certain medications are very beneficial, however, the withdrawal symptoms can be extreme. Pristiq and Effexor both have similar withdrawal symptoms. Unfortunately, Pristiq is not made in doses less than 50 mg. Effexor is easier to come off of because of the variety of dosages available.
All of this talk about ‘mental illness’ is a negative way to view a chemical imbalance in the brain. I don’t consider myself ill or mentally handicapped in any way, I am very sure that many people that suffer from lack of serotonin or other chemicals in the brain may have triggered it by doing something as simple as maintaining years of sleep deprivation raising very young children. That’s what happened to me. Five years of very little sleep depleted my brain of serotonin. As soon as they gave it to me, I was fine. I would not want to live without my serotonin. It gives me peace, happiness, positive outlook, faith and the ability to do whatever I want in life. I agree with the comments AyeThePan, to be careful of stopping medication that is very beneficial to you.
Pornography is not harmless. I definitely disagree with that statement. Married men that view pornography are harming their relationships with their wives. It is degrading to women and not at all honoring a mate behaving in that way. Husbands don’t realize how hurtful viewing pornography is to their wives.
I was diagnosed with major depression recurrent after giving birth to two children in my thirties. The doctor said I might have been raised by a BDP and that I might have learned the behavior and could be about 10% BDP. I think it is probably true because I’ve made friends with people that I think are more than 50% BDP. I see it in others and I feel sorry for them because I grew up with one of my parents having depression and borderline tendencies all of the time. I walked on eggshells as a kid around my parent because it was like a mine field in my own home. Very difficult to live with and to cope with as a child and young adult. I am over 50 now and I have learned from several friendships with those that have major borderline tendencies, I have to usually be better with my boundaries. I’m not so good at keeping clear lines with people because I am a very compassionate, merciful person that usually forgives easily and loves with all her heart. That is just the way I am because I learned to be super loving from my other parent who made up for the abuse we all suffered while living in the home with a BPD.
Don’t know if that makes sense or not but it wasn’t until a few years ago that I realized one of my girlfriends was 100% BPD. She would be so mean to me and say things that were so hurtful whenever she got angry. She was single and I was remarried, she made cutting remarks about my husband and how she didn’t “need” a man in her life. The truth was, she couldn’t keep a man in her life because she was such a bi-atch most of the time. BPD is terrible when a person is not on medication to control the mood swings and blowups. I hope you will seek counseling and overcome any tendencies you have because it will destroy your relationships and your life. Even just a 10% like me can easily ruin relationships if I am not careful.