I have 13 dead spots in my brain because my ex used to beat me and in the divorce they still gave him joint custody. He tried to use my mental health against me too. He can also use it against u though if you do not seek help. Then u are not bing the best mom u can be 4 ur children because u r not taking care of ur self. I no it can be a double edged sword at times but would u rather let him win because ur scared of him and ur mental health is suffering because of it. Dont let him win. U win this one. Dont let him hurt u he does not control u. And remember loves the only house big enough 4 all the pain in the world. I will keep u in my prayers.