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Dec 11, 2011 · Coming off vicodin after 20 years and having strong suicidal thoughts in Mental Health

I have wondered how you are doing many times since I saw your post. My concern and empathy has been for the despair you were feeling although I had wondered if you made it off of the vicoden. I hope you are staying strong and post back.

Nov 24, 2011 · Broken Hearted, What can I do? in Women's Health

NF, you comment on a lot of posts. Please, comment on the one above. I’m not looking for some big answer or a conclusion …just your thoughts. What you were thinking, if you looked up any of that, do you think your husband might have similar feelings? While sorting things out for myself, I also like to hear the opinions of others. Especially, those that come from another point of view.
The perspective I wanted to add is that maybe your husband doesn’t feel he has control over his emotional well-being. But, know that I admire the effort you have made to find resolve and work it out. I also whole-heartedly believe that you should put you and your family first if he treats you badly.

Nov 22, 2011 · Broken Hearted, What can I do? in Women's Health

Just fyi, I’m an avoidant type with childhood issues. I’m trying to go to therapy and it’s just not working …I can’t talk at all. So, ultimately, I’m just ending up with a feeling that it’s just another thing I have failed at. The result is feeling worse. And then add to that, the fact that now I’m more aware of how screwed up I am and how much my past has affected me but with no resolve to go with it. Then take away the coping skills I have relied on to survive all of my life …because now they just look like it’s been a futile effort. That’s my summary of pushing myself into ‘therapy’ to ‘get better’. I don’t think this is better. I’ve been contemplating if addressing issues head-on is always the right thing to do.
I don’t know if this would interest you but Wikipedia true self & false self and read similar concepts. I found Alice Miller to be particularly interesting. I was also trying to find more information on Joan Riviere, negative therapeutic reaction, & “defensive organization” but general look-ups have lacked the detailed information I was seeking.
I guess my reason for commenting here is that the comments I’ve seen (either here or on the ‘loving someone with a personality disorder post’?) regarding people’s willingness to change have gotten to me. Willingness just is sooo not the issue with me and I wanted to add another perspective of what someone might be thinking.

Nov 22, 2011 · Loving someone with a personality disorder in Mental Health

It seems you came into question here on this post. Just so you know, that was not the intention of the above comment. I actually admired the fact that you’ve had enough compassion and patience for the amount of effort it seems you have put into this relationship. The questions about how he reacts were genuine and I would still like to here your opinion on it.

Nov 22, 2011 · depression, sleep a lot, all sorts of problems and getting worse in Depression & Anxiety

There are other types of social anxiety disorders but read about avoidant personality disorder. Please, post back if you think it applies to you because I will want to say something else.
Also, there’s an online test for it at http://psymed.info

Nov 19, 2011 · Feeling on the bright side of darkness today despite PTSD history in Mental Health

Couldn’t you get medical assistance for surgery or treatment?

Nov 14, 2011 · therapists for my schizoaffective disorder in Mental Health

I’m sorry for that, maybe I was trying to speculate too much as to why someone would tell you how to act or think. What you said is right and I don’t think there is any excuse for a therapist to be cruel or put someone down. I am afraid to talk to a therapist in the first place and I know I couldn’t handle one like you described. Please, accept my apology if it sounded like I condoned that type of behavior and I do admire your courage to continue therapy.

Nov 11, 2011 · therapists for my schizoaffective disorder in Mental Health

I’m just curious, is there any chance she was trying to help you not follow a pattern of old behavior that has a negative effect on you? I’m not assuming I’m right, I was just wondering if it’s a possibility. I think it’s good your still trying to see a therapist. It takes a lot of courage, even for someone who hasn’t had a bad experience. I noticed NAMI has support groups for mental illness and they are free. Maybe that would help to try at the same time as therapy. Then you would have a place to talk about therapy and the therapist and you wouldn’t be subject to one persons opinion.