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Dec 25, 2011 · Merry Christmas! Hope you and your son are hanging in there. in Just Want to Talk

Merry Christmas! Hope you and your son are hanging in there. @foreverhislove

Dec 11, 2011 · Suicide in Mental Health

I have wondered how you are doing many times since I saw your post. My concern and empathy has been for the despair you were feeling although I had wondered if you made it off of the vicoden. I hope you are staying strong and post back.

Nov 24, 2011 · Broken Hearted, What can I do? in Women's Health

NF, you comment on a lot of posts. Please, comment on the one above. I’m not looking for some big answer or a conclusion …just your thoughts. What you were thinking, if you looked up any of that, do you think your husband might have similar feelings? While sorting things out for myself, I also like to hear the opinions of others. Especially, those that come from another point of view.
The perspective I wanted to add is that maybe your husband doesn’t feel he has control over his emotional well-being. But, know that I admire the effort you have made to find resolve and work it out. I also whole-heartedly believe that you should put you and your family first if he treats you badly.

Nov 22, 2011 · Broken Hearted, What can I do? in Women's Health

Just fyi, I’m an avoidant type with childhood issues. I’m trying to go to therapy and it’s just not working …I can’t talk at all. So, ultimately, I’m just ending up with a feeling that it’s just another thing I have failed at. The result is feeling worse. And then add to that, the fact that now I’m more aware of how screwed up I am and how much my past has affected me but with no resolve to go with it. Then take away the coping skills I have relied on to survive all of my life …because now they just look like it’s been a futile effort. That’s my summary of pushing myself into ‘therapy’ to ‘get better’. I don’t think this is better. I’ve been contemplating if addressing issues head-on is always the right thing to do.
I don’t know if this would interest you but Wikipedia true self & false self and read similar concepts. I found Alice Miller to be particularly interesting. I was also trying to find more information on Joan Riviere, negative therapeutic reaction, & “defensive organization” but general look-ups have lacked the detailed information I was seeking.
I guess my reason for commenting here is that the comments I’ve seen (either here or on the ‘loving someone with a personality disorder post’?) regarding people’s willingness to change have gotten to me. Willingness just is sooo not the issue with me and I wanted to add another perspective of what someone might be thinking.

Nov 22, 2011 · Loving someone with a personality disorder in Mental Health

It seems you came into question here on this post. Just so you know, that was not the intention of the above comment. I actually admired the fact that you’ve had enough compassion and patience for the amount of effort it seems you have put into this relationship. The questions about how he reacts were genuine and I would still like to here your opinion on it.

Nov 22, 2011 · depression, sleep a lot, all sorts of problems and getting worse in Depression & Anxiety

There are other types of social anxiety disorders but read about avoidant personality disorder. Please, post back if you think it applies to you because I will want to say something else.
Also, there’s an online test for it at http://psymed.info

Nov 20, 2011 · Also, try to connect with other people who can relate to you. in Just Want to Talk

Also, try to connect with other people who can relate to you. I just found out NAMI has a group for moms with kids who have issues and I’m going to ACA or ACOA now. It helps to identify …or sometimes just laugh about dysfunctional things with people who understand. @sad

Nov 20, 2011 · I'm sorry for your loss. I'm more of an avoidant type...didn't have in Just Want to Talk

I’m sorry for your loss. I’m more of an avoidant type…didn’t have anyone to lose. Warning: I read hopelessness was the only predictable rating for potential suicide. I’ve been independent all of my life …I know you can do it, too. That includes the fact that I’m super ADD & try to avoid everything. That’s why I know you can do it. Just do the minimum, if you have to. Pay the bills, don’t go over 30 days late …utilities are the nicest if you call them. & do your best to give any kids you have compassion…at least enough so that they know they matter. @sad