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1 day ago · “Surviving” Life After Breast Cancer in Breast Cancer

@elizm – You eloquently described exactly what a lot of people do. I think that it's important to be helpful but that doesn't m ean offering advice, medical advice. I wish you well on your recovery. What kinds of things are you doing to help lessen, if possible, with chemo brain? I watched cooking shows.

1 day ago · Increasing bone density naturally after menopause in Women's Health

@lisalucier– Good morning. Like Connect I loved the openness, honesty and science backed information. There's nothing like a female doctor discussing the facts about women's issues. And on top of that, someone who has experienced menopause! What a breath of fresh air!
What surprised me about what happens before menopause were the hormones that regulated each phase. I had no idea that progesterone was for babies and not moms! What interested me about what happens after menopause, both in my life and in the video was how long it takes for the body to adjust to all of the physical losses that these hormones cause when you go through menopause.
Lisa you said that you might not get menopause because you had to have a hysterectomy. As Dr. Taylor pointed out in this video it's not the uterus that determines menopause but your ovaries. Although you no longer have a period you still have all those hormones! You also mentioned that you might not recognize if and when you have a hot flash. I can reassure you that you will know! It's like a furnace is turned on high inside of you, you get red or blushed colored in your face and chest. I wanted to carry a fan around and a water spritzer with me, strip and run through a sprinkler. Winter was a blessing because I'd just step outside, in the snow, barefooted.
I had a horrible time with night sweats, day sweats, every time I moved sweats. I would be drenched form head to toe. And one Christmas my husband bought me a flannel night gown to keep me warm during the winter! I finally went on an antidepressant that stopped both my hot flashes and depression. By the time I switched antidepressants to my current one I had "outgrown" hot flashes. Sometimes it takes 10 years to go through it all. Mine didn't waste a minute of the 10 years. But please, everyone, be assured there are wonderful help aids if this is the path that you chose. And not everyone experiences the severity that I did.
I'm curious to know if anyone had a much easier time.

1 day ago · “Surviving” Life After Breast Cancer in Breast Cancer

@lisman1408 – I'm very very glad that time is over for you. But for many people it's not and we, me included, have to be particularly sensitive to those hurtful times. Thank you for sharing your story, it really helps to open the mind!

1 day ago · “Surviving” Life After Breast Cancer in Breast Cancer

@lisman1408; @dottieh– Thank you. It's unfortunate that the word cancer has become a cancer in itself, few people really know how to react to someone who has cancer. I have even had trouble. At the beginning of my journey I knew what I didn't want to hear but I had no idea what I wanted to hear. Unless you want to be that screaming person in line just nod your head and let the remarks go. Unless of course you can't, like me sometimes. There is no good cancer. All cancer is bad. And it can come back and that petrifies us, and why shouldn't it? To those who really are insensitive maybe tell them the truth, in a calm way- tell them that "what they say makes you feel …" Educate them. Tell them that no, I am not lucky, lucky is not ever having cancer.
Don't you think that we need to educate people not to be afraid of the word?

1 day ago · Increasing bone density naturally after menopause in Women's Health

Good morning everyone.
Recent discussions concerning bone density and PMS/menopause symptoms leads me to share this video. I know that there have been a lot of discussions about menopause but it's been a good 2 years since there has been a discussion with Menopause Taylor or Dr. Bobby Taylor on YouTube. I had a very very tough time with hot flashes, depression. Then because of fibroid tumors my uterus was removed and a year later my ovaries were removed. I was immediately put on HRT's and took them for years and years. When I stopped I needed help with depression and other symptoms. I had no idea what was factually happening inside of me. My mother never would admit anything about such things so I was really blind sided. I had read little about it and only caught something here and there in conversations.
This morning I was watching a mature You Tuber who has as her guest, Menopause Taylor. She's a retired OBGYN dr. and is world famous. I would like to share this with you. It's worth every minute. The You Tuber is Hotandflashy.
I am learning, even after this amount of time so much. I didn't know that this is what happens before and after menopause. After watching this what was the most surprising thing that you found out?

1 day ago · “Surviving” Life After Breast Cancer in Breast Cancer

@lisman1408 – perhaps it's time to agree with them? And since you tell them that you agree then you can also remind them that they need not mention it again.
I agree with @trixi1313 someone needs to be your advocate with your sister. I kept mine away. Right now you are number 1! Your mental health has so much to do with your total healing. You might need to separate yourself from those people who are insensitive to your needs and well being.
Can you or someone else set some limits so that you are protected? This is not the time for being polite to people who don't have your back!

2 days ago · Premenstrual Syndrome (PMS) in Women's Health

Good morning @olivia22819 When I ran across this this morning I thought of you. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vsQJoyn2vxo&feature=em-uploademail
How are you doing? Have you sought out any help for your symptoms?

2 days ago · “Surviving” Life After Breast Cancer in Breast Cancer

@sunflower012– Welcome to Connect. It sounds as if you have been having a terrible time. I am a lung cancer survivor and I can really relate to the mental fog and memory loss that surrounds us with chemo/immunotherapy. It took quite a long time for me to get as much back as I was going to. I don't think that it all came back, especially memories. When someone does remind me that I did something or was someplace my surprise is always accompanied by a pleasant surprised of experiencing it all again. lol
At first no one's use to dealing with cancer. Cancer is like a freight train. I comes at you with full speed and it tramples you, leaving you to scrape up what is left.
There are so many phases that we go through after our "treatments" that it's difficult to pin point, at least for me, which one was worse. I know that losing your breasts is much different than losing lung lobes. Mine are not visible, but the sense of loss is still there even if no one can see it. I felt myself pull back from everyone but family with each of my 4 cancers and I don't know if my self isolation helped my recovery or not. During that time I had a chance, like many cancer patients, to exam life's questions and where I fit in. To me the point of surviving was that I had survived and I owed it to live my best in honor and in memory of all those who didn't make it. I felt that I needed to give hope, just by my survival and to tell my story so that others might do the same.
I do not think that the point of surviving has to be a complicated secret. Keeping things as simple as can be when times are tough might help. Does any of this makes sense?