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17 hours ago · Alzheimers: When should someone not be left alone? in Caregivers

Hi @leeandpat – I can really relate to the issues you are having. As @colleenyoung mentioned – I'm facing several of the same ones myself. I will share some of the things that have been helpful to me.

This year I joined a Caregivers Support Group at our local Council on Aging. I learned that one of the services our local hospice offers is grief counseling for caregivers. The patient does not have to be end-stage. At least here in North FL, hospice provides support for any dementia cases that are referred to them. I learned that you CANNOT do this alone. My advice would be to seek out a therapist/counselor, start looking at the care facilities in your area – even if you won't need them for awhile, and find out what hospice can do for you. All of these things brought me tremendous peace of mind.

In regard to your husband's anger issues, I know every case is different. For me, its important to remember that anger and fear are very close cousins. I find that when my husband is anxious or afraid about anything going on in our lives, he either tends to get very weepy or else have an angry outburst – but the anger is more like a child's tantrum. It's not something that causes me – or family members – to fear for my safety. Anyway, I have learned that when I have medical issues, it is VERY scary for him so it's better if I downplay them and have a friend or relative take me. If I were you, I would consider letting your husband stay with a relative while you have your knee surgery. Also, you might ask your surgeon about the possibility of going into rehab yourself for the first week or two after knee replacement so you can really concentrate on your own recovery. I had a friend who did that and she said it was the best decision she ever made!

Is there someone you could talk to -I would say outside the family – to get some constructive suggestions on your husband's anger issues as well as how you might plan and schedule your knee surgery in a way that keeps both you and your husband safe and in a good frame of mind? Maybe a counselor or therapist?

1 day ago · Has anyone had a tight band feeling after total knee replacement? in Joint Replacements

Hi @debbie64131 – CPM machine means "continuous passive motion" machine.
Here is another conversation about those:
Here is a little bit more information as well as another Connect conversation about CPM machines:

https://www.verywellhealth.com/cpm-continuous-passive-motion-2549555

https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/scar-tissue-after-knee-replacement/?pg=24#comment-240588

I think the verdict is still out on use of those machines. I know that there are some clinical trials going on at Mayo but not sure the results are in. I've had two TKR's and didn't use one and I actually don't personally know anyone who has. But they may be great. Are you thinking of trying this kind of therapy?

3 days ago · Severe allergy to titanium, nickel need TKR in severe pain in Joint Replacements

Hi @jennia – Welcome to Connect! I've had two TKRs and I'm happy to say both went pretty smoothly – although not without a certain level of pain, frustration and worry. So I can imagine why you are feeling concerned with your titanium allergy. Here are some threads you might find interesting:

https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/stem-cell-therapy-2/?pg=1#comment-301639

https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/stem-cell-therapy-for-arthritic-knees/

https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/need-tkr-and-had-positive-allergy-testing-bone-cement-and-metals/

I'm also going to tag a few people who might have insight: @denver, @okieshan1, @gutthookd, and @johnbishop
Meantime, have you talked to your doctor about stem cell availability where you are located?

4 days ago · Does anyone have experience with Mirtazapine? in Depression & Anxiety

Hi @faithshouse – Your husband's symptoms must be terribly draining – for you and him. I can relate to a time after my husband had some minor surgery and couldn't sleep well. Everytime he got up, it woke me up! Nothing worse than getting to sleep and then waking up and not being able to get back. You may get some good help here in the Just Want to Talk group, but you may have better luck in one of the more specific groups. If I were you, I would definitely check out the Sleep Health Group to help connect with people who may be having similar symptoms. Here is a link to help you get started:

https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/sleep-health/

It also sounds as if mirtazapine is sometimes used to treat depression. If your husband has issues with depression or anxiety. Here is a group that may help:

https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/depression-anxiety/

Meantime, how long has your husband had this problem? Do you think it may be associated with other health issues?

4 days ago · Great opportunities are heavy burdens: meet @becsbuddy in About Connect: Who, What & Why

Oh @contentandwell JK – we would spend summers there in a heartbeat if money were no object! We LOVED the North End. I gained 10 lbs and thought I would have been irresponsible if I didn't take advantage of all that delicious risotto, cannoli, pasta, etc!

4 days ago · ENT Issues: I don’t know what to do. in Ear, Nose & Throat (ENT)

Hi @natalee_43 – Welcome to Connect! Your symptoms must be terribly frustrating and especially after not getting a diagnosis for a long period of time. You may get some good help here in the Just Want to Talk group, but you may have better luck in one of the more specific groups. If I were you, I would check out the Ear, Nose and Throat Group to help connect with people who may be having similar symptoms. Here are some links to help you get started:

https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/ear-nose-throat-conditions/

https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/mucus-and-bad-breathe-when-your-not-sick/

https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/im-having-multiple-odd-episodes-that-are-keeping-me-undiagnosed-help/

Meantime, I'm wondering – have you gotten a 2nd opinion beyond the original ENT surgeon?

4 days ago · Great opportunities are heavy burdens: meet @becsbuddy in About Connect: Who, What & Why

Yes, @becsbuddy and @contentandwell – small world! We lived in Boston (in the Devonshire at the corner of State St. & Devonshire) for about 10 years before we retired. Now my son too is in Denver and my cousin lives in Boulder!

5 days ago · Has anyone had a tight band feeling after total knee replacement? in Joint Replacements

@jellycats – I'm so delighted to hear your good news. I know it has to be a relief being able to avoid the MUA. I just had my 2nd TKR in January and I'm feeling for your other knee. How bad is the right knee? Can it take the added stress of being the "strong one"?