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1 day ago · Living with lung cancer - Introduce yourself & come say hi in Lung Cancer

Last day of radiation – have been home between 3-5 each day of the 10 days – gave 4 hours travelling time with the construction work along the way there was a couple days they moved appointment up from 2 – to 1 & 1:40 of course we made time and arrived early think there was only one time had to wait very long most generally we were in and out before the scheduled time they are the greatest. done it for gas/snacks and a meal only 3 days did not stop for sandwich/meal the one day before i splurged stopped for Kentucky Fried Chicken family meal so there was plenty of leftovers for the next day – other 2 days said he did not want to stop done it for $495.18 – just the room board for the dog & cat and motel room for us these day days would of been $1933.10 not sure if we would of have to pay for transit while there or not; the valet parking was validated for all visits including initial dr visit too. Not sure if have helped still visibly swollen go back to radiologist on the 17th – his reg dr/labs/immunology next Friday still awaiting the Genomic reports… Amazingly it went very well except for a close encounter with a deer last week and this week… of course the Indy traffic but that's becoming old hat now.. started this journey in Oct 2017 (started with only an initial chest x-ray to see why was coughing so much then they ordered a ct which had to wait a week plus for results at local hospital in Sept – when family dr. only comment result was Thoracic surgeon & biopsy I said IU Medical center tried to get us to go locally but stuck to my guns not been sorry its been well worth all the travel time) God will only how much longer

Sat, May 11 12:53pm · Living with lung cancer - Introduce yourself & come say hi in Lung Cancer

Thanks for the info. Its not really been as bad as I thought it would be… Someone worse off than us needs the help as long as I can do it… there may come the day or time I can not but will cross that bridge when it comes. I bought a fabric/mesh/wire play pen for the cat as she likes at times to bounce off the walls… Its worked out better than I thought I did into even sleep in past 9:30 today…

Fri, May 10 4:13pm · Living with lung cancer - Introduce yourself & come say hi in Lung Cancer

I done it 1000 miles under my A$$ this week for 252.14 for gas/snack and one meal per day did without the meal today; and saved 714.14 if had gotten a motel & boarded Aries (the dog) & Lucy Lou (the cat) and t did not figure in the meals for the week. Reprieve for 2 days and start over….

So far so good really not tired… even been up each day before the alarm went off…

He seen dr. (radiologist) wed after treatment said some noticeable change… not really sure I do notice he holds that arm differently than the other ; sees dr. (radiologist) on wed not sure if again but scheduled for regular oncologist/lads/infusion no schedule for June as yet –

Not got anything done here at home but will try to without over doing….

Still ceases to amaze me somewhat the sister and brother-in-law has never bothered to calling once this week to see how things are going if car is holding up, if anything is needed – oh i know the both work but….

Fri, Apr 26 4:01pm · Living with lung cancer - Introduce yourself & come say hi in Lung Cancer

Just trying to do what I promised, whats right and fight for the adage of "Do no harm"; my mother and her sister were nurses so I do have a weird sense of values I guess.

Fri, Apr 26 12:08pm · Living with lung cancer - Introduce yourself & come say hi in Lung Cancer

That's okay I did not do it for them – I done it or their mother, father and doing it for their brother. We had not choice for the mother being in nursing home she had Left carotid surgery Nov. 4 2004 – came home and started to have TIA's we took to a local ER handed them the paper work from the dr/hospital with all the #'s on it they refused to contact was told that when she had one to wait 30 minutes to an hour for it to subside – she woke up on Sunday morning as a "Zombie" finally talked her to goign back into ER – they refused to transport her back to Indy Methodist & Her dr. kept her over night for 24 hour observe was going to send her home I went behind their back (this being the 3rd ER visit after the surgery) and called the dr. direct he got orders for the transport out of local hospital but not without a fight on their part finally 6 hours later they did – on way down the ambulance speed past us at 80+ (as that was what my speed-odometer read) in trying to keep up with them… early morning she was transferred to Neuo ICU and spent 2 weeks there – we slept in waiting room on floor or long sofa, or 2 chairs pushed together she came out full right side stroke and speech, thought and comprehension affected went from 150 down to less than 130 pounds none of the daughters came down or would bring son down – we would come home late on Thursday night – to pay bills, get food in house etc. and go back…

I promised both the father and mother I would see this through and I will hell or high water – its that his needs and wants need to be respected and not shipped off to a nursing home, half-way house or whatever where they are absolved of all responsibility and they could of ran off with everything – he was the one who helped care for the grandmother and them along with me they went on with their lives, work and families with out having to be responsible for their care.

Fri, Apr 26 11:26am · Living with lung cancer - Introduce yourself & come say hi in Lung Cancer

Yes they are in my mind and I can't toot my horn enough… all I wanted was the "BEST" and out of the system up here in Northern Indiana and out of the Oncology/Hematology that his father was in and I was biting my tongue – his father's dr talked in apologies; would not discuss – and it was "you take this medicine because I say so side effects be dam" he pushed medications with out talking side-effects and their effect on his A-Fib and told me outright all I gave a dam was about the $$$ and not the person – well when I seen 95-98% of the side effects of the drug; and the drug said it affected the heart rate, & he came home and slept 90-95% percent of the time only wanting to get up to go to bathroom, dr's appointments and to eat if he felt like eating. he kept "badgering" him to take the medications – badgered him into taking presdisone which sent him into instant foot edema and congestive heart failure landed him in the hospital for a week and a change of heart medication to control his A-fib which was 120-130+ NO I did not want this type of dr. for his son and the practice is scattered over all over northern Indiana with satellite office in other communities with hospitals Finally after seeing his sons treatment by drs at Simon he was wanting to go to IU Med but it was to late when I finally got him there by driving him myself – the last time had him to ER in one of our local hospitals they refused his request to be transferred to IU Med/Methodist I know the outcome probably would not of been different but he would not of been in the misery he was in he was from Nov. 2016- to his death on Jun 28th 2018 not making red blood cells tho it was implied it was not cancer but the father tested positive for JAK2 V617F mutation and this was never fully explained and clearly!

Fri, Apr 26 11:04am · Living with lung cancer - Introduce yourself & come say hi in Lung Cancer

I've always been what I thought was a good planner – its "black/white" sorry for the pun – its either there or not there $ and if not you do without… No the sisters/step sister has not really thanked me they are out for what they can get or feel the deserve and they have done little for there parents/grandmother the years i've been here the step-sister in my opinion has always thought she was better than all the rest. the youngest daughter has played the fiddle and made remarks about the other sister/step-sister its almost as if its a "war" between them and I am caught in the middle – below is my rant on all this

Fri, Apr 26 10:52am · Living with lung cancer - Introduce yourself & come say hi in Lung Cancer

Yes I can – NO they won't because of what his dad had me to to protect/ care for him, the son and me – son with the lung cancer does not want to go into nursing home – father did not he was not making red blood cells he died Jun 28th did not see it go through – wife/mother was in nursing home died Dec 26th it was father/son & I who cared for her went to see her. He has 2 full sisters & a step sister who can get a rats ass in hell about him – the sisters have never called to ask about him – the step sister did but her questions was "how long do they give him" ; none offered help to pay for the funerals; the youngest sister some how talked her mother into taking over her care after her dad died – all i could get out of the mother (my friend) was I did not have enough time now????? All that ran through my mind was and not said WTF – I was the one taking the father to all his drs. appointments sitting 6 to eight hours for a blood transfusion stopping to see her on way back home; goign in to see her on grocery trips, and taking the them regular dr/cardiologist visits and taking the son to Indy which started out to be every week (and the father went with us as could not leave at home alone) then done to every 3 weeks. BUT i was good enough when the mother had seizure/Acute MI to be called and go to hospital and bring the son between 1-:30 a.m. (but i later found out why the nursing home nurse insisted i be called) – she was DNR/comfort care because of all her medical problems so I was the one who sat with her ALONE 98% of the time 24/7 while she was in hospital / hospice / and back at nursing home for the 8 days.

They did not say type of radiation – may find out Thursday when go back I assume to make sure mask is right – they took him in alone this Wednesday for the fitting/simulation…

All I got to do is hang on till October when the one piece of farm land is sold and can be insured with title insurance (this was to get the father/and I out of this mobile home) & better vehicle and was to go down last fall after the "adverse possession" went through – it has everything in my name now just got to hope none throws a monkey wrench in it but if do the youngest daughter will loose her house

Been out yesterday gathering scrape I can haul off in car for extra money . as the truck is loaded down with garbage to go off to the trash hole over on the other property which the sisters husband said he would do I called its been sitting for 2 weeks now – I did get one good load with the truck before i done some clean-up here – she did offer to take the scrape off but like i told here it had to be sorted and loaded

The youngest daughters husband does come check out the car when i ask – as afraid to take it elsewhere to be worked on because of its condition – and yes I have a new/used factory warranty vehicle in mind and get rid of the car and the truck (its not in good shape either and not road worthy for long hauls)

Basically its they are pissed because father protected himself and did not live to see it – the son (who lived with his grand mother to help care for her) and me (been here since May 1994) taking care of all them… & give the youngest daughter her 5+ acres for where he house stands as the mother/grandmother would not give her the land to go with so its been sitting on the property for 20 years that's in the works the survey is made which I have to pay for besides giving them the acreage free and clear for no compensation …. the wife/son/me took care of the grandmother and in Nov. 2002 wth the father/mother we watched her die – I sat bed and held her in my arms when she wanted held… I helped delivery the one granddaughter –

The sisters both work – the one widow the other works in hospital blood lab & was an EMT; the step sister is semi-retired and loves to travel with her husband to see her and his kids… I am the fool, the scapegoat the stupid one for fully caring and being there for all of them all these years.

The youngest sister & husband (he even read the CT-scan reports while here the day checking car over and knew there was a possibility of radiation and I was taking him down for consultation and biopsy for the genomics needed extra money but they have
never called to see what is what , they never even asked us over for Easter.

Sorry for the rant. I will survive and God will provide and sorry in the end Karama will be a bitch