I guess it was lost Jake, but you can roast vegetables at home.
My daughter, the mother of my twin grandchildren, died from the injuries she received in a car crash. Three more family members also died. When I look back, I think of 2007 as the year of death. An author, this led me to write four grief reconciliation/healing books and dozens of articles. Writing can be healing and I encourage all grieving people to put their thoughts in words. You may read my articles on the Open to Hope website and The Grief Toolbox website.
We used a caregiving agency for years. The caregivers ranged from incompetent to marvelous. Unfortunately, the caregivers needed constant monitoring and lacked carry-over. "I forget," one kept saying. Unfortunately, some caregivers relied on me to the point that I was doing all the work and they watched me–hardly worth our thousands of dollars. We stopped using this agency and switched to another agency that has registered nurses and certified nursing assistants. It's comforting to be able to talk with caregivers who understand my disabled husband's needs. Every caregiver has been polite and eager to help out. Point of my story: If one agency doesn't work switch to another.
On May 8th I had open heart surgery. A Mayo Clinic cardiac surgeon replaced my failing mitral valve with a pig valve. To be honest, I didn't think I would survive the surgery but I did. Today, I am grateful to be alive, to be home, to be recovering, and to be returning to my normal life. Every breath is a miracle.