Hi cseymour, I can relate to feeling like I was st my witts end with my husbands personality change. He fought cancer until 2015, then was told he was terminal and since then his personality began to change. Now, as the cancer is spreading he is becoming more angry at the world in general and at me. So much so, he lives with his brother now. My husbands is 61, his brother 71. I tried one on one counseling for his moods and anger, joint counseling too. Anti depressants. Cancer group support. Organised and supported outside interest. He stopped those 5 months ago. I felt so bad for him, his unhappiness, feeling cheated on life etc but when he started in on me, it scared me. And I can’t live in fear. Or be mentally and emotionally abused. He use to show remorse. Then he stopped that. He’s suffered a lot physically and has been on pain meds for a long long time. And I think that changes the person. Sometimes. He’s even mad at God. Try to take the best care of yourself that you can. I highly suggest talking to a carer counsellor. I let it go on way too long. I’m trying to get on my feet, looking for work, moving to lower cost rental. It’s been a shocking upheaval and by the grace of a God of my understanding, I haven’t fallen completely apart or become ill myself. Take care, talk to professionals, get support, find respite somehow, somewhere . Seek options. Stay healthy. All the best.