I am sorry to hear of your loss Scott. You sound so strong and centered, someone gave me a plaque “we are as strong as we need to be”. using that logic I am a champion weight lifter ! lol I have a sister that set up a meeting with one other sister and we had a fun weekend but during that weekend she said “this could be the last time we are all together” which was true but I didn’t know when we said goodbye that it was GOOD-BYE . I only hear from her once since that weekend (3yrs ago) and that was about a month after my daughter died and she told me “I should be over it by now”.
As we know you never get over it.
Why are people that way? I don’t know……but I suspect fear. Fear they will say the wrong thing. they get scared when they get so close to death so they back away. and then there is the fact many of us (me) build a shell around ourselves and we appear fine, strong even So there is no need for them to offer comfort
and last They don’t want to remind us of our loved one !!! WHAT???? We will never forget…I think of her first thing when I get up and still I will turn on her phone to hear her voice….I don’t want to forget.
My biggest fear is what will happen to the people I leave behind . I try to find peace thru God
I also have Fantastic friends I can talk to about most things.
I tell myself to get over it !! I am not that important….. life will go on …LOL
hope to see more of your posts !
Thank You for the support !!!!!!!!