Your health and well being are too important for you not to be comfortable with your doctor and their practice. As hard as it is when you're scared, frustrated and overwhelmed by the cancer diagnosis, you must feel confidence in your doctors.
I started out with LCIS – Stage 0 breast cancer essentially with an oncologist I loved. Then my insurance changed and I got an oncologist who suggested I just 'watch that lump' that I'd found in my breast…..not….'let's take a look and make sure what this is'. Well, I changed oncologists, had the tests and I had Stage 1 invasive Lobular. Had I waited I might have been at Stage 2, 3 or worse. I then proceeded with bi lateral mastectomy, etc. with the second oncologist and changed when this same oncologist walked out of a meeting with my husband…..right in the middle of his appointment for Stage 4 terminal cancer to see 'a really sick patient'……..yup……….there are some less than stellar doctors out there. My husband and I now share the third oncologist and he's great.
If you choose to stay in the practice or with your doctors it's important that you ask them to explain everything they are doing for you, in detail. That way YOU can make an informed decision. If they are not doing that and you don't feel comfortable, those doctors are NOT doing their jobs.
Do you have someone who can go with you to appointments to take notes, ask question and with whom you can bounce ideas off of? It's hard to understand and hear all the information when you are the patient who also has to process the difficult news.