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3 hours ago · Adults On The Autism Spectrum in Mental Health

Dearest ,probably should have issued a trigger warning,@lioness,

I know that on here I am always trying to be positive , upbeat, and encouraging…..

But have you looked at the news lately?

I suppose it depends on which news, when, where, and how often.

I personally have to distance myself. I cannot take a steady dose of the negative side of the effects of living in this world without sufficient support for Autistics, whether they be children or adults. It has come to the point where my health is affected by it. It is difficult to be 100% positive all the time in the face of stark reality.

My precious little Autie Grandson had THE best year in an inclusive kindergarten classroom. There were a few bumps in the road, but they were overcome. Everything I do, I do for him. He is always in the back of my mind. His Mommy, my youngest daughter, says I do too much. I take on too much. I AM too much.

And she is right.

Somehow I have to balance it all to the point that I know how to relax and take it easy. For my sake and for my family.

I know what to do.
It's just consistently doing it.

Guess that's where prayer and persistence come in.

Love you guys to the moon and back!

Mamacita Jane

4 hours ago · Adults On The Autism Spectrum in Mental Health

Ginger, Volunteer Mentor,
Therei s a death mentality lurking in the shadows of our society.

If it is broken, we don't fix it. We kill it.

We deny It rights. We don't cover it's conditions with insurance coverage.

We dismiss it as untrainable. Unteachable.

We say there are not enough funds available to provide for it.

Because they do not learn the way We teach, we say they are unteachable.

We stop trying to help them because we don't get the results we think we should. As quickly as we think we should.

We search for a "cure" when it has been proven for quite some time now that Autism is a different operating system, beginning before birth.

We de-humanize and dismiss.

How many times did I use "it" before I began to bother you?

We get used to poor treatment of others and it doesn't take long before we don't expect any better.

This is why I am here.
This is why I am on socisl media every day.
This is why I advocate every time I step outside my door.

We are here for you. Good on you for self-advocating. You might be surprised to find more than a few Auties in attendance, they are just really intent on masking to fit in.

Love and light darling Ginger! Be safe and have a wonderful time!
Mamacita Jane

1 day ago · Adults On The Autism Spectrum in Mental Health

I'll be good. I promise.

1 day ago · Adults On The Autism Spectrum in Mental Health

@sirgalahad , @lioness, Teresa, Volunteer Mentor, Happy Taco Tuesday!

Or whatever it is that anyone celebrates today! For us, at our house, it is NCIS night. First, the original, at 7pm. Then at 9pm, NCIS New Orleans. With a house full of introverts, this is as close as we get to a family reunion.
Autistic burnout.
I haven't checked to see what the definition is. But I feel it. I am climbing out of it. Slowly but surely.

When everything is just too much.
Every.
Little.
Thing.
So much so that you want to do absolutely nothing.

But then when you do absolutely nothing, you become overwhelmed.
Because you feel intensely the sadness of it all.
It feels as if your life is just drifting away.

You need grounding.
You need good self care.
You need friends to love on you and remind you of your worth.
You need good food and music.
You need puppies to cuddle and birds singing.
You need space and time.
You need candles and flowers.
You need poetry and books.

For those who read this, know that you are loved. You are worth it. Take all the time you need.

Preaching to myself here!

Everyone have a restful weekend coming up. Lots of activities going on. Don't overdo it. Yes, I know it is only Tuesday.

But I get ready for the weekend starting on Saturday night!

Take good care, me lovelies. Enjoy today, whatever it brings you. Remember that you are a human being and not a human doing. What is in your heart is what counts.

Mamacita Jane

1 day ago · Adults On The Autism Spectrum in Mental Health

I am so grateful to have a place where I can share what it really feels like to be an Autistic adult. Hopefully those reading all of this will see my dilemma and learn from my mistakes.

Autism is wonderful, exciting, and awesome.

It is also deep.places where you feel so alone. Left out in the cold. On the outside looking in.

I am not alone. The people who come here , whether they be Autistic or Allies, are as real as my new neighbor down the street. What I experience here translates into that big world outside my door.

That is a very big deal in the Autism Community. I hold my head up a little higher, my step is a little bouncier, and my heart is so much lighter, knowing all of you. You have no idea.

Mamacita Jane

1 day ago · Adults On The Autism Spectrum in Mental Health

Ginger, Volunteer Mentor,
Can I adopt you?
Your words are like a soothing balm to my raggedy old soul. I have been in Autistic Burn Out for quite some time. My brother John tried to warn me. He kept telling me to slow down, when ALL I could do was advocate, pray, cry, and cry again.

All the feels. The heartbreak, sadness, turmoil, rejection, of masses fell upon me. And I grieved for them. I felt….what….they…felt.
And I gave them what I needed when I was in their shoes. I will never stop as long as I have breath.

Yet somehow I must learn to release all of that energy so that it does not consume me. My blood pressure was stroke level last week. All because I had to meet and be interviewed by a new counselor I had never met before, in a place I had never been before. I felt like an insect under a microscope. I was terrified.

Yet somehow I had to "mask" enough to get through the interview, because I was beginning to believe that my unmedicated ADHD was the root cause of my meltdowns. The crying at commercials. The nightmares. The loneliness. The depression. I had to see a Psychiatrist in order to be properly treated. My PCP was concerned for me. Was this some type of mood disorder?

I'm too old for all of this. Whatever is at the bottom of this, I surrender. I give up. I'll take the labels, if that's what it takes to feel better. To get better. To BE better. I am not used to putting myself first and it is uncomfortable. Maybe I will have to go on a different med for ADHD. One that won't raise my blood pressure.

Autism in women is not a " thing" here in the South. That one thing right there is enough of a challenge to deal with. I have hope, though. She is Native American, and her office was so welcoming and soothing. She even had a therapy dog. She appears to be open minded, open to Alternative Medicine. I hope she is open minded. I haven t had to prove I was Autistic in a long time.

Thanks for letting me lean on you guys a little bit. This doesn't get any easier.

Love and light, always, my loves,
Mamacita Jane

2 days ago · Adults On The Autism Spectrum in Mental Health

Teresa,Ginger,John….everyone from Mayo Clinic Connect, and all our friends and allies, Auties and those who think they might be Autistic: greetings from the land of the living!

As many of you know, I recently had to get some of my meds changed around a bit so that I can be my best self. We are not done yet, by any stretch of the imagination. But it is progressing along, no doubt as it should .

I am being forced to slow down, rest, and relax. I even talk to myself in my own counselor voice, which gets kind of crazy, but at least I give good advice!

I could not resist that.

I want to make Mayo Clinic Connect my go to. From now on, when I get a moment and I feel like I need to check in to see what's going on lately, this is where I want to be.

It's hard for me to leave once I arrive. But I am sure we can work something out.

Anyway, I just wanted to check in with you guys. It is so hard for me to slow down and take it easy. But I have to, to keep my blood pressure from going sky high. I want to be around a long time.

You guys make life easier when the road is rough. I appreciate all the work you do to help others. Including this crazy old cat lady.

Talk to you later, loves.

Mamacita Jane

5 days ago · Adults On The Autism Spectrum in Mental Health

Lisa Lucier, Connect Moderator….kerp me in your thoughts as best you can.

It is so difficult sharing personal information to a complete stranger.

Autistics feel very deeply.
We take criticism so painfully seriously.
I have been on the other side of that desk.
I know by experience some of the things she will tell me .

When working with my own clients, I never write anything down until my client leaves or I drive away, if it is,a home visir.

That is how sensitive we can be.

I hope you have a wonderful day today. Thank you for your support. It means the world to me.

Mamacita Jane