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Mon, Jan 6 11:21am · Early Onset Alzheimer's: Driving and staying home alone in Caregivers: Dementia
My husband had been driving until he had a Dr's appointment and I mentioned he had had a few spells that we attributed to heat as it was in the summer. He would black out for just a minute or so and then after resting seemed to be okay again. She called me aside and In addition to having him consult a cardiologist, she said he really should't be driving any more. I asked her to tell him that and he never tried to drive again. We were very concerned within the family on how to get him to give up driving, but that did it. He still had his license and would tell everyone that he could still drive, but he never attempted to. By that time he was no longer staying alone. so someone was always with him.
I don't think this is "rambling". It is a real concern as we get older on what to do with all the "stuff". I helped clean out homes or apartments of 6 family members as they died or transitioned to care centers. I do not want to leave that task to my children and at 84 years, I'm beginning to sort and give items to people who would like them. Some of my grandchildren think I am planning to die soon, but they don't realize what a difficult task it would be if I left 65 years of marriage stuff for them to sort out as well as all the collections their grandfather had. He is now in a care center with Alzheimer's Disease and vascular dementia and it is time to get this sorted out. Best wishes to everyone in this New Year, and keep looking ahead.
Along this line, I just have to share a little about our church service this morning. The Choir presented their Christmas Cantata. It was bible readings followed with a musical selection then another bible reading, music selection, etc. The fastest hour I ever spent. So meaningful and relaxing. I hope they have it on YouTube as they do place the weekly church services there. I want to hear it again.
Arlene, You and I have probably have something in common. I am 84 and my husband is 89. He has been in a care center for almost 3 years now, but before that I cared for him at home for about 4 – 5 years. I miss him and try to visit every other day even though it is a 45 mile drive. We couldn't find anything closer that would accept Medicaid and had skilled nursing in their Memory units. For the last year or so he has been in the regular skilled nursing unit as he can not walk and is no risk for wandering, etc.
I am so glad you posted this. I strongly suggest anyone helping with the care of loved ones and even after their death's, attend support groups in their communities. They are there, but you may to search for them. Check with churches, care centers, community centers, etc. I am not always able to attend the several here that I have started going to, but when I do, it always gives me a lift to know that others are experiencing the same issues that I encounter. Ruth
I would visit at several times a day and try to get a feel of how the caregivers are responding to the residents. Also take to a local social worker. They are wonderful help in finding placement that fits the person. Get involved with a support group. Just listening to people there will give you an idea of where the best place is for your situation.