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Sexual dysfunction
Hello.
I am almost 70 years old.
Next week I’m seeing a doctor for erectile dysfunction. I suspect a pill will be prescribed.
I never thought I would have this problem! My wife and I were quite active.
I ask myself, am I too old to be attempting to revive my sex life?
My wife is 8 years younger than I.
She is so very patient and understanding since this “change” has happened over the last 10 years. I feel like I’m depriving her of something that I know she misses. It wasn’t just the sex, it was the intimacy and emotions that it brought with it.
The doctors believe that depression and various life traumas are the reason it began 10 years ago.
Just wondering if anyone else is going through the same thing.
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I am not male, but I know of a few people who have encountered this issue. From what I’ve read, there can be any number of causes. Since your doctors suspect depression, did they offer any options for treatment? It sounds like your wife is quite supportive. I hope you can find solutions that work for you both.
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1 ReactionI am being treated with antidepressants.
One of the antidepressants is notorious for negative sexual side effects, so I am slowly titrating to another medication without those side effects.
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2 ReactionsI see. I hope that helps. I those who have encountered this issue will chime in. I understand how it would be very frustrating.
Good for you for getting treatment for depression and for being willing to try other meds!
Just thinking, once in a good place with your meds, I had success with having my hormones checked :testosterone, progesterone, estrogen (“male and female”, exercise, etc. generally healthy and resultant sexual arousal, etc. functions. It’s all related, all work together in my case!!
All the best in seeking your optimum health!!
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1 ReactionI just turned 70 one month ago. This issue of ED started slowly five years ago and now it’s here to stay. BUT what I have been reading is the foods I ate and the amount of exercise I do at this stage of my life. I played sports most of my adult life. But work got in the way. So I am back to the basic. Eat the right foods and exercise. If you can, hire a personal trainer. He/she can keep you straight on what to eat and ensure you are doing the various exercises correctly. Once you relearn the basics you can do it on your own. Just a thought here.
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2 ReactionsHello.
Thank you for your response.
Have you tried medication for ED?
There are several dosages of ED meds. My experience was the first script was higher than I needed. That was a long time ago. When they were reasonably priced compared to now. I won't get in to where they are cheap these days but if for instance you are prescribed 100mg of Viagara, you might want to cut the pills into quarters and see how much it takes to get the right effect. If you are pretty healthy 25mg might be enough and 100 might give you a side effect you don't want.
One other thought. If your wife is around sixty two and she's willing and able without discomfort in her vagina, that probably won't last forever. Enjoy those pills, nothing like fooling Mother Nature.
Love, sex and eros cover a wide range of possibilities, and there are many books and advice columns to be found and considered.
Many tender and intimate encounters don't require penis-in-vagina sex.
A simple silicone ring around the base of the penis may give enough help to maintain an erection, and other toys for women and men are available.
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