Sex After Surgery: What can I expect?

Posted by bdc1677 @bdc1677, Aug 14, 2024

For those who have had their prostate removed and able to get an erection... how has sex changed? I am schedule for surgery October 3rd. I am 57... so a little freaked out.

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robertmizek | @robertmizek | Aug 14, 2024

As someone whose prostate cancer reoccurred my personal opinion is that you made a good choice given your circumstances. Don’t hesitate to check back into the forum if we can answer anything regarding concerns you have regarding prepping for surgery, recovery, regaining urinary continence, etc. We’re here for you.

bdc1677 | @bdc1677 | Aug 14, 2024

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Thanks... my Gleason score is 7 (3+4). With moderate aggressive cancer in multiple areas of the prostate. So focal treatment wasn't an option. Going with surgery because risk of reoccurrence down the road.

robertmizek | @robertmizek | Aug 14, 2024

First of all welcome to the forum and the club no one wants to join. You’re going to be alright and we’re here for you.

I had surgery mid January 2024. Sex is a work in progress for me but I’ll share a few comments based on my experience. Get busy as soon as you feel well enough. Be patient and kind to yourself if things take a while. It probably will but the destination is worth the journey.

Climax feels different and without seminal vesicles you will no longer ejaculate so there is no “build up” and “release” and some describe it as a “dry”:orgasm. On the positive side it’s less messy and I’ll leave figuring out the advantages of that to you. Some men say it’s less intense. Some say it’s more intense. Your mileage may vary.

What’s your Gleason score?