Non-nerve sparring radical prostatectomy rehab.

Probably too late - but kudos to you for wanting to try at age 81!

The pump may not do you any good, but I've read that even after neglecting to do so that it can still be beneficial to trying to stretch the urethra (go slow to prevent injury) and get your penis used to engorgement again. You can also get an implant, and there are several to choose from, to return to some form of erectile function again.

I assumed I would never get an erection again and read quite a bit about options. Lack of erections doesn't preclude you from having orgasms, even a flaccid penis can be stimulated enough to produce an orgasm - which is good news because it means the primary hurdle for you is an erection strong enough for penetration and for long enough to accomplish the task for you and your partner.

There are so many things I learned about what is still possible in this department, even if you have a dead fish in your pants, that I was less worried about ED than I was incontinence because I knew, one way or another, that ED could be overcome.

In a small, weird, way, I was kind of thinking that if I had to get an implant that it would be cool to just press a button in my scrotum and PRESTO, an erection for as long as I wanted one and when I was done, the button just turns it off. As someone who is very into automation in my home, I'd probably find a way to tell my voice assistant "He Siri, wake up the Kraken" 😅.

You can do this! Talk to a penile therapist, who is also a urologist generally, and they can get you on a plan to get to having sex again. I know some people think sex is over at 81, but my dad is 85 and - disturbingly - he loves to remind me how often he gets his groove on - so I have complete confidence that you'll find a way and you'll be a Casanova in no time!