New to ileostomy. Partial gastrectomy,,total colectomy

I'm waiting for 2 surgeons to coordinate partial gastrectomy and total colocectomy with ileostomy. My GI tract hasn't worked since2011. Dealing with constant gastroparesis and my c
Colon Paralyzed in 2018. For 8 years I've managed it with medication but doesn't work anymore. I had what people would consider great Dr's. I was with 2 practices in Connecticut. Danbury and Yale and nobody helped. I discussed removal of the colon and my GI assured me that I wouldn't need an ileostomy since 2016 and here I am. My bladder Paralyzed in 2020 so I self cath. I'm afraid. I have no more choices. The last hospitalization was for stercoral colitis from ischemia,kidneys shutting down,inflamed gallbladder, inflamed common bowel duct, infection, kidney stones 10mm. I don't trust Dr's anymore. Holly1963