Living with long-term bowel side effects post anal cancer treatment
I’m an anal cancer survivor (2014–2017) still struggling with severe bowel side effects years later. I’ve tried HBOT, biofeedback, and diet changes, but incontinence continues to affect my daily life and relationships. I’m looking for support, advice, or simply to connect with others who understand.
I am literally in tears. I have needed this for so long. I dealt with anal squamous cell carcinoma from 2014 to 2017. I did one round of chemotherapy, and I can’t remember how many rounds of radiation. I had the full support of my family and fantastic doctors, so I don’t have any complaints, but my life has never been the same. Until today, I had never found a place where I could ask questions (other than to my physician).
It has been 8 years since my last radiation, and I haven’t had a regular bowel movement since. It is always runny. My relationship has essentially been diminished into a roommate situation, because how can it be anything more when I basically have no control of my bowel movements? I can’t eat while I am out of the house unless I have a plan for how to get to the bathroom, and the bathroom must be available — so that rules out most public places. Going to the home of family and friends is embarrassing.
I have undergone several summers of 40 HBOT treatments, I have done two rounds of biofeedback therapy, and I have increased fiber intake. I have my regular colonoscopies done to make sure all remains clear, although the prep for the one last year felt like I was dying. But last night something that has never happened before, happened — I had a runny bowel movement in my sleep. I tried cleaning everything, but I had already moved myself to the couch to be closer to the bathroom... and now the couch is ruined. Everything else is washable, but it doesn’t matter how much I’ve cleaned it, the smell won’t go away, and I am mortified.
I frankly think my partner should find a life with someone else, someone who can provide them intimacy, who can go places with them, who can lead a normal life. It really is exhausting, and today I finally searched high and low until I found this group. And here I am, venting.
I don’t know what help I need. I don’t know what else to do. I have read about SNS but I am afraid of doing something that may interfere with future HBOT or MRIs.
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@jofree
Thanks for writing.
It is a wonderful feeling to stay connected with those who have similar experiences. This is why I participate in and enjoy Mayo Connect.
Being a flight attendant helps me feel like I continue to matter. It is a great feeling to see how many older passengers - approaching or exceeding my age - find value in being helped by a crewmember of their generation. It is not all that I do, but it is a major part.
@gavid can I ask what your symptoms were prior. I am having pencil stools for the post 6 months.
@jimdiehl
Hello jimdiehl,
Thank you for your writing about six days ago: You appear to be well adjusted to your conditions. My colon cancer experience was in 1999, were not that far off in experiences. I appreciated your sharing and throughout it all, you just kept going. What a brave approach to a life changing challenge. And, by sharing this story you have encouraged others besides myself to just keep adapting to the constant changes. I also participated in ostomy groups and found much support throughout those early times.
But being a flight attendent is courageous: I no longer fly anywhere; the overall process seems so complicated and crowded all the time. I, we, my gal and I, explore our states on three wheeled trikes, mostly in Florida and my status as an ostomate has never been an issue. Just keep going my friend, and keep sharing whenever you can. Helping others through encouraging responses is such a wonderfull thing about our connect site. Best to you and yours.
Jofree
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1 ReactionSo sorry for your suffering…I just hope you can find a doc who can help you get better quality of life ! You may get good suggestions from Colontown, a patient portal for people with all types of CRC and lower GI issues…very helpful to me and they also have experts available for advise…and access to medical studies and trials—they may expand your healing possibilities…good luck !
I found that the bidet water stream was too harsh (even at low setting) and hit the fissured area (ouch). I got a sitz bath and would fill it when I showered sitting on the floor or a bench. I could stay warm by turning the shower on periodically and also rewarm the water with a hand held attachment. I would sit my poor bottom in the warm water for about 10 minutes. It was very soothing. I did eventually heal with just a few reopenings of the fissure when I had rough bowel days. Hope this helps.
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@rioa21
Thank you for sharing
I can’t imagine having two bags
I think the colostomy bag would be enough to deal with
Did you ever discover anything that helped with the mucus?
It really is the worst-call me wet butt it makes me crazy
@mfe50
Thank you for your words
Right now my biggest challenge is a prolapse colon and an enormous amount of mucus which makes my butt wet constantly
I haven’t found anything to control the mucus flow
Like you I haven’t my BM mostly under control except for occasional flares
Prednisone has helped me through my flares
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Thank you for those thoughts
I am struggling with this prolapse colon and how disgusting I feel about myself
Maybe it would be best for me to seek a surgeon at the Mayo clinic just for a second opinion
I have tried for years to avoid a colostomy but your words and experiences give me hope
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2 ReactionsOne suggestion is to get a bidet. There are attachments that hook easily on you toilet. Also sitz baths with dunsboro (sp?). That you can buy on Amazon .
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