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I have to schedule another Prolapse Surgery..and other things
I have to have another surgery to correct the failed surgery I just had last October. It has been very miserable ever since as I just never recovered and now the prolapse condition is much worse than it was before that first surgery... I can barely eat... It is also compounded by the fact I was given a 90 day vacate notice to move from my apartment of 20 years so I cannot actually schedule the surgery until I know I have found somewhere safe and decent to live and be able to recuperate for 4 weeks or so. In the meantime, I am trying to pack things and take them to a storage unit I rented. The first surgeon only "pulled up" the prolapse robotically ... That particular surgeon is no longer practicing as I received a letter six months ago explaining he was disabled... So the new Surgeon I met with last week said he has to cut some of my colon out and do a Laparoscopy ,,, apparently my colon is just swimming around by the looks of the ultrasound I was shown.... it all sounds very frightening to me. He assured me I will feel much better and everything will function well after this surgery... But right now, I am feeling very ill, very alone and more than depressed... I am devastated by this and that I can not turn to family during this time. I just sit here in this apartment of 20 years surrounded by boxes and things are just scattered everywhere ,,, no one to talk to ever... i'm 62 and sometimes I think... this is how it ends for me... Thanks for reading ...
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I’m so sorry for what you’re facing and feeling alone. Is there a senior center in your area or city? They may be able to refer you to resources to help with packing and moving. Also contact social services that may have home helpers as you go through this. You’ll most likely need help post surgery as well and it would be a good idea to schedule in advance. Reach out to your doctor’s office. They may have a resource you can reach out to. You didn’t mention family or friends but if any are close by, don’t hesitate to reach out to them for assistance. You’d be surprised they’d be happy to help if they know what you’re facing.
Best to you.
I did mention family, who can not help really.. and I don't have any close friends... Ever since the dreaded pandemic, services such as government, medical, and non profits are not very helpful... they rarely answer their phones and 98% of the time the messages you leave are never returned... are they overwhelmed? or did just they decided to continue to be in pandemic era mode of do-nothing and "work" from home attitude.. I do believe it's both, but it's a disservice to everyone seeking help. For instance, I wanted a second opinion and perhaps another surgeon than this second one I am seeing, but the person in charge of granting that has not returned my call... and it's hard to get through to this office... So I think I should just go with this Surgeon... he seems to know what he's talking about and has been a colon specialist for 42 years.. but the two appointments I had with him he seemed a little absent minded... but then again the first surgeon i had was declared the best one in this area and that surgery was not successful... so No, the medical office is not helpful.. I even spoke to a the medical Social workers about my housing issue and upcoming surgery and they were clueless and unhelpful...
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2 ReactionsI'm sorrowed you're going through this, I know a 78 yr old man with a broken neck and cancer who is homeless. His days and nights are bus and park benches, libraries , train and bus stations. Be thankful you can find a place, have a bed, privacy... Try town community centers,church,temple... in person support groups to make friends . 8 billion people on this planet so you are not alone. God bless and remember we're given challenges we can handle, but it's how we handle them is up to us.
I sorry for your situations. If you ever need to talk please write to me. I check this daily. My name is Anita
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1 ReactionDon’t give up on calling keep calling eventually you will find someone that will do there job and help you. Don’t let people get you down. Be determined.
I’m sorry you have to go through this alone. Pray to God that he’ll help you. Never give up.
I'm so sorry; that's a huge load for anyone to carry and I hope your situation gets better. I don't know if this is something that would be of interest at all, but if you can't find anywhere else to go and you're near one of these centers, you may be able to stay there while you're recovering:
https://nimrc.org/resources/the-state-of-medical-respite-care/.
I know what it's like to barely be able to eat and to think that things will never improve... please don't give up hope. I haven't found all my answers yet, but I am in much, much better shape than I thought possible a couple years ago. Do go with your instincts when it comes to picking a doctor if you can, though; I've had mixed experiences with top doctors, too, and I've learned that it's important to have a doctor who a) genuinely knows his stuff, b) cares enough to get it right, and c) (last but not least) is humble enough to admit what he doesn't know.
I'll pray for you. Don't hesitate to reach out on the portal or this helpful 24/7 chat line if you ever need someone to talk to: https://988lifeline.org/chat/. And maybe your family could talk you through things too even if they can't help in other ways. God bless.
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2 ReactionsGod bless you...illness/aging alone/housing concerns is enough to overwhelm anyone.
I can relate in many ways. I am 67 have had rectocele and sigmoid resection. Was put on thyroid meds that has caused blockage and ruined me.
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1 ReactionThe pandemic has been milked in EVERY way. From illegal ppp loans to locking customers out of offices while they collect free money. Shameful! And the lies about not being able to fill positions🤦♀️🙏
God bless you...illness/aging alone/housing concerns is enough to overwhelm anyone.
I can relate in many ways. I am 67 have had rectocele and sigmoid resection. Was put on thyroid meds that has caused blockage and ruined me. Seems no one listens.