how many of you have stromg feeling to have BM? and how often

@logsdon is your wife considering abdominoperineal resection (APR), where her rectum is removed and the anus is shut (I know there is a name for this but I always call it Barbie Butt). If this is the case then the ostomy would not be reversible, but the sensation in the rectum goes away too.

I have not had any strong persistent urges to have a BM since my permanent ileostomy in 2002. Occasionally there is a bit of a cramp. But nothing much.

What type of surgery is your wife? Contemplating? A permanent ostomy with resection of the bowel? Or a temporary ostomy?

Thanks Susan,
the surgeon recommended colectomy and ostomy - I guess if he takes out her whole colon, it would be ileostomy.
did not mention APR, this is the first I have heard of it. what led the surgeon to go that route?

@logsdon I have Crohn's disease, and a history of anal abscesses and fissures. I had the permanent ileostomy to remove my j-pouch, and had no plans to try that again. With a history of disease in the area there was no reason to leave the anus intact.

I have the sensation, feeling of pressure, needing to have a BM, once a day every few days. I also have clear mucus from my anus every time I urinate. I was told both of these things are normal. I have a loop colostomy that is permanent. I had anal cancer in 2006, surgery got it all. After 18 years it came back and settled in the rectum. Surgery was not an option; colostomy was a necessity due to severe constipation and fecal incontinence. The colostomy has improved my quality of life. 15 months after chemo and radiation cancer is back again. The surgeon has recommended a pelvic evisceration, no guarantee they can get all of it. My thought is no thank you. I’m an holistic physician and herbalist. I do natural treatment when possible. Hope this helps you.