hernia following prostatectomy

I remember seeing something posted on this a month or so ago but now cannot find it.
I had RARP in January and I believe in April had signs of a possible hernia. I went to urgent care and was told there was a definite bulge. Followed up with primary care who also noticed a bulge and sent me for ultrasound. Ultrasound could not confirm hernia told me could be minor hernia could be muscular
I am now experiencing these symptoms again (tenderness and bulge, nauseousness, headache all day for two days now) I have scheduled an appointment with my primary care.
I read that 20% of males can have hernias following prostatectomy. and this might be higher if there is a history of hernia repair which I have (both sides 30 years ago)
I really do not want to have a hernia
I do not want to have to have a repair if it involves a catheter and set back for my incontinence.
I am only a patient, I tend to think that since the removal of my prostrate which was also enlarged means that besides muscle and nerve rehab some of the parts (intensiveness, guts, etc.) have to get rearranged. I also wonder if the core exercises I have been doing religiously might have either contributed to a small hernia or perhaps I am experiencing muscle pain.
I was also starting to do some heavy lifting carrying boxes full of books and papers up and down stairs moving some cabinets around gardening
has anyone had experience with this?
I am definitely symptomatic
thanks much